The unharmed truths of the church is not so much. Strictly speaking, they all fit into the dogmatic basis of Christianity - a symbol of faith. Everything else is the rules, canons, traditions that can be changed. Another thing is that sometimes these foundations are so firmly entrusted to the church consciousness that the retreat from them seems to be a real revolution. Especially if this applies to the question of an important thing, the question of terrible and, it would seem, once and forever solved. Church does not pray for saving suicide shower! Or after all ...
Suicide, in a Christian understanding is not just a sin. This is the only sin in which it is impossible to repent and, consequently, to make forgiveness from God and the salvation of the soul.
The church escorts the suicide in the last way truly with sobed silence. It is impossible to sing "with the saints of the man" over the body of a person who has all his will, all his desire for the last hour sent to make the soul from God forever.
The church shakes from suicide from the very beginning of its existence. No wonder Judas Iskariot, who repented in treason and committed suicide, is more condemning for suicide than for betrayal. And no wonder English writer-apologist G. K. Chesterton in his essay "Orthodox" wrote that the suicide is the opposite of the Christian hero-martyr, suicide - insult to everything, for which it costs, what the church costs.
A man who has deprived of life cannot be commemorated in the temple. For a suicide, you can not submit a note to remember. For him, the priest who serves Liturgy will not be frowning. The only thing that remains worthy of his coffin is to pray at home, but also that many clergymen say that such a prayer can drive a mad thing.
And it is partly the truth. It is impossible for a simple person alone to accommodate pain, horror and the fear of who accepted a catastrophic solution to end. And the unwillingness of the Church pray for a suicide leads someone who still decided to ask the Most High about the rest of the soul of the deceased, to the feeling of guilt and fear. As if God did not impose a prayer for a sinful soul. And it turns out a vicious circle: a person prays, but instead of consolation and empathy, he earns only a sense of all-consuming guilt in front of the Lord. It begins to be afraid of God, who (as it should be allegedly logical) will only punish for being painful and I want to pray and cry. How not to fuck?
Few people will endure alone alone with quiet abyss of grief, despair and guilt. Therefore, the relatives of the suicide are trying to enlist the support of the Church by all the truths and untrue. Find at least some loophole so that they all went on humanly, and then remembered, and they gave at least a glimpse of hope that on that light with a person everything will be fine.
One of these quite legalized loopholes is a testimony that the deprived of life has been in an insanitable state and could not answer for what it does. If there is a confirmation of this - the suicide will dispense. But here there are many "curves" of the moves - someone issues a certificate from a psychiatrist and with her help is deceiving blessing blessing bishop. Somewhere under the mental disorder agree to understand alcohol and narcotic intoxication or the state of affect. But still a single understanding - when you can rescue when it is praying - the church was not.
For centuries, the church was separated from this issue, or closing his eyes to obvious connivance, or vice versa - showing excessive rigor, wiping after the suicide of his relatives and relatives. About how the souls will burn out those who cannot pray in the temple for their native, writes a priest in their live magazine:
"... I have a call on my phone and the female voice interrupted by sobbies is trying to tell about his grief. - Father, son, my son committed with me. What to do? Then I meet with my parents. During the meeting, the Father, as a rule, is worth it Lowering the head down, looks at my feet, and my mother, trying to touch the priest, as if to the straw, sometimes falls to you, pressed his head to the chest and crying. Lord is a lot, how they scary are scary. This is not a cry, but Accurately sobs and suits the little offended by all the dog.
And you can't do anything, most importantly, you can't pray for him, and you can't comfort. You can only stroke her hand and cry with a man. Then the suicide is buried, and a new parishionank appears in the temple, which comes to all services, because the prayer is the only means to not go crazy. She can't, like her husband, to leave, she goes to prayer. Black clothes are now her clothes for years. She often confessed, blaming himself in everything that happened to her son. It is constantly already from her to drive the thought to go after the son.
This struggle lasts seven-eight months. Then the woman comes less frequently. It takes a few more months, the mother comes to himself, again begins to reason his life, nothing threatens her life. And she leaves the temple, usually forever. But I do not condemn anyone, because it is unbearably hard not to be able to pray for the past. "
This is unbearably hard - not to dwell pray. And the church, in the end, decided to divide the terrible burden, together with the relatives of the suicide, substitute the shoulder where no one else will be supported.
"All the ruling bikes have to face such a phenomenon when the mournful relatives of the person who committed to themselves seek his funeral. I believe that it is necessary to introduce a single practice here in order to avoid abuses - both in the direction of excessive rigor and in the direction of excessive rigor and in the direction of unjustified Selling. In Moscow, a special rank of suicide prayers was developed, "said Patriarch Kirill in 2011 in the Footwear of the Bishop Cathedral.
It is worth noting that in a sense "Chin prayer for suicides" the church is already there. This is a prayer to the martyr Uru, who, bypassing all the rules, pray for the suicides, and for unresolved. But it is necessary to make a reservation - these are those prayers that each reads strictly alone, Cemely - that is, not generally worker. And not all the priest bless to read these prayers.
Some experts hurried to declare that the church adapts under modern worldin which the problem of suicide is very acute.
"This is a new decision for the ROC, - Research Center for Study Center argues in this spirit. of Eastern Europe University of Bremen Nikolai Mitrokhin. - Before that, there was a strict separation: if a person has committed suicide - the church ceases to pray for him. The church realized that he lives in a new world. In the XIX century, it was a rarely encountered thing, and now Russia has one of the highest suicide ratings. This is a problem regarding many families in conditions when people rarely visit the church, it is not worth neglected. At the local community level, priests have long been trying to come up with how to adapt this problem to modern realities. "
August 5th, 2015
Session of a new hypnologist
Q: Religion says that suicide is the greatest sin. From the point of view of the universe, is the suicide sin, and does the soul hang after suicide between the worlds, waiting for the time that was intended for the program to go to another embodiment?
A: This is nor not "sin", especially the "greatest". Rather, "sin" will be for you for a long time To be in the depressed, depressive condition, thus wrapped around an even more depressive reality. And most people who commit suicide make it, to put it mildly, not in joyful and not in high-energy state. It is no secret that the cultivation in itself and the cheating of negative states is self-developed and lead to degradation, the loss of the effortless energy potential. When delivering from the physical body in such a psychological state, the soul simply does not have enough "charge" to get to those plans of the universe, in which peace prevail, joy and love prevail. That is why all your religions consider the despondency to be one of the "mortal sins", which urged not only the soul itself (more precisely, worked out by it), but also the inner world, the reality that the soul creates in this state and which will not express anything except despondency, depression and hopelessness. And in the milled state, get rid of them much more difficult than in reality 3D. Because in the subtle world, the subtle reality is to create with the help of thoughts and internal states for several orders of magnitude easier and faster than in the world "dense".
The reality of the dense world was created for this: so that the soul was able to faster to correct their mistakes, here everything happens much slower and almost imperceptibly for consciousness, as a clockwise movement on the dial. Your thoughts can be compared with a second-hand change arrow, your internal states - with a minute, and external reality - clockwise. Of course, the analogy is conditional. In the thin world, all three arrows move almost at the speed of the second: the relationship between thought, internal condition and external reality is almost instantaneous. So - learn to manage your thoughts, do not allow their chaoticness, that is, depending on external circumstances, otherwise you will be engaged in self-absorption and immerse yourself in the reality of chaos and disorder that will take a lot of energy to fight them.
Therefore, in most cases, suicides break up with physical life due to the unbearability of their stay in the reality in which they are located. If the external reality is generated by their internal reality, then in the leaving of the body, this internal reality, of course, is not going anywhere and will be constantly maintained by their internal thoughts and internal condition until they themselves wish to part with this state, as with a bad habit. That is why suicide is not "sin" nor "non-sin." If a person is in despondency, he himself punishes himself, and no "God". He always has a choice and the opportunity to get out of this state, as soon as it really wants it. However, it is not less, it is more correct to consider every specific case of "suicide" separately, since, as we have already spoken, no law nor a single rule is generally but reflect only general trend And the greatest probability that the consequence will be exactly the same, although it is not necessary. For example, Jesus Christ, when they crucified, there was an opportunity to get off the cross, but he did not. Did he commit suicide? Or, let's say, the man in the dungeons of the Gestapo put on his arms, so as to the torture, not to give up his associates, - will it be a sin? Socrates who drove the poison by the court decision, committed suicide? It is unlikely that more likely suicide here is the nature of self-sacrifice in the name of the highest ideals, when a person is raised in the harsh conditions of choice between suicide and their betrayal. For cases approaching the interpretation given above: these souls are unlikely to fall after leaving the body into the reality of despondency and hopelessness.
Q: Jesus had certain intentions in his reality. After all, he believed that he was doing correctly, it means it justifies him.
Oh: In a sense. I simply brought examples that it was not always that it seems suicide, it is essentially. And on the contrary, it is, although it does not seem to you externally. Say, isn't you a constant negative suicide, self-destructive thinking? Or eating tobacco and other drugs and poisons? This is also possible to consider as suicide, only stretched in time. Moreover, accompanied by the destructive impact on the psyche and soul as a whole.
Q: Everything is clear! That is, it turns out that the fact that the religion says there is that suicide is the greatest sin and that this completely contradicts the divine nature of a person - all this is incorrect, and we ourselves determine the degree of harm from suicide. But it just takes place in the world, yes?
A: Religion is one of the ways to manipulate the consciousness, the method of managing humanity. And again, it carries a two-way function: on the one hand, it somehow organizes people, disciplines, creates some collective consciousness, teaches constructive interaction with other people, but, on the other hand, to a certain level of development. If a person lives in fairly harsh environments, the tough rules of behavior adjustable from the outside, and if he can say that suicide is not a sin that you still "come to paradise", then naturally he may prefer "to escape to the paradise by quick ", instead of dealing with severe physical labor. If a negotiated schoolboy is a two-way, you can not go to school, and nothing will be for it, then ...
Q: ... He will simply spare out of the embodiment. Well, yes, he will simply stop going to school and will be engaged in idle entertainment that will not give him development. In: And experience, in fact, will not be accepted, and will need to go through lesson...
A: Yes, and if the two-hander "walked" classes, he will have to crash the others in his group, that is, his further training program will be heavier and more hard. That is, the next time you have to visit the school, it will be forced to "stay after lessons", while his peers will be with a calm conscience to drive the ball in the courtyard.
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each soul, according to the coming here, there is a certain amount of prana-energy, so in case of interruption of life, Prana will remain and spend it in the outside of the physical body, takes a lot more time, from here and poltergeeists and perfumes hanging between two worlds.
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By church canons, suicides (others also belong to those killed on duels killed during the mismuneration of the criminals, people who insisted on their euthanasia) and even suspected of suicide (it was not accepted to disadvantaged from unknown circumstances) on the paneir. Suicides do not bury in cemeteries near churches. There are opinions that the suicides can be attributed to the dead "lovers" of extreme sports "sports", because they really realize the deadly danger of such classes, for the sake of empty joy anyway risked life. In fact, suicides are drug addicts, toxicomic and alcoholics.
However, in the well-known pre-revolutionary manual for the priests of S.V. Bulgakov, with reference to the decision of the Sacred Synod dated July 10, 1881, it is indicated that the died of filing (if it has not been proven that those drank in order to poison themselves alcohol) are not counted for suicians, on the basis that "... For the death of the feed precedes the perishes of reason, which does not happen when the use of other means to conscious suicide ..." Although, obviously, almost all drunkards are aware that the excessive use of alcohol is mortally for health. Not everything is simple and in cases of death of drug addicts from overdose, since directly by the adoption of the drug addict is in consciousness, unlike a winding alcoholic, which takes the latter, the deadly portions of alcohol are clearly in an unbearable state.
An exception It is done only for suicides suffering from explicit psychic pathology, and consisting of official psychiatric records. In such cases, it is necessary to provide the ruling bike of your diocese a certificate from a psychiatric institution, once supervising this unfortunate, and write the appropriate petition with a request to bless the church remembrance of such a person. Almost always such a blessing is given ...
Who is deceiving yourself or God?
However, as practice shows, our people, especially from the Malvers, Church "Zazhozhan" gives an excessive and false importance to church funeral, as a kind of magical action, after which the deceased automatically falls into paradise.
Meanwhile, according to the teachings of the church, the soul of man on the third day after death passes terrible Nataria. At this time, the soul of the deceased has a lot of need for the prayer assistance of relatives and the church. To facilitate the transition of the soul to another life, canon and psaltry read over the coffin, and the chin of funeral is performed in the temple. The first meaning of this service - consolation of the soul of the mustache, And then the sickness of the grace of the Lord for the soul, the petition of sins, which, alas, is automatically absolutely good in all cases.
It is hard to see with what simply manic persistence Parents almost knock off the blessing of their suicide children who have never suffered from mental disorders. Who are cheating? The priest, referring to the Lord, sings: "... with the saints rest ...". Who with the saints rest?! Suicide?! Which, besides, despised the Church of Christ, as well as his parents who began to be baptized, only when a terrible thunder struck?
Saint Innocent Irkutsk, according to, by the way, the apostolic rules, asked relatives who brought to the church to funeral the dead: "And when was the last time he was in service?" - "Sowing six months ago .-" Take the coffin. We have no right to relieve such. "
The church prays only about their members, but almost always people reach suicide, which have long chosen themselves from the body of the Church. The Lord said: "I am a vine, and you branches; who dwells in me, and I am in it, he brings a lot of fetus; For without me, you can not do anything. Who will not be in me, will twist, as a branch, and dries off; And such branches are collected and thrown into the fire, and they burn " (Ying.15: 5-6) - in them and great consolation for faithful Christians, and a terrible warning for smallproofs and apostates.
Here are two letters of Archimandrite John Peastery, the confessor of the Pskov-Pechersk Monastery:
"Dear about the Lord A.! It is impossible to remember and pray in the church about my mother, because there are canons who can not be left. Musture will entail terrible for dismissed consequences. He himself will give himself to the power of the enemy. But what is possible - Vladyka Veniamin writes about this. And we send you the canon about the scope of your stomach. Read at home 40 days every day This canon, and the prayer of Leo Optina read about Mama all his life. Still applying to Mom alms in need. It is impossible to do anything else. Even if someone will give you permission to prayer in the church, it will be in harm and mom and you yourselfFor the canons of the church, no one can cancel. And the obedience they won the Lord for the mercy of you and to mom. God bless you!".
"Slave of God V.! It is impossible to disturb the canons of church. You can't pray for your brother in the church. In vain, you were troubled about his funeral, now at least stop collecting your wrath of God at least. You can pray for suicians only at home, and neither how it is impossible to submit them to the church either on the liturgy or a paneir. Lord to them the judge, and you suffer to disobedience. "
The manic persistence of suicier affinations is often a substantive desire to transfer all the responsibility for further fate His killed Chad on the church. Meanwhile, the greatest wine lies, first of all on the parents living in dignity, and who did not give proper faith from a small age to her child, to which he could easily rely on in a difficult moment.
Therefore, it is more correct to take responsibility, and the celino itself (at home) to take a prayer feat (but not coming, but blessings and under certain conditions), With faith that the Lord will give a certain relief of the soul of suicide.
However, not everything is so simple ...
Pray, but carefully
During recent years They have a walking of several brochures, which contain compounds on home prayer about suicides with a canon "About the self-fired belly of their dies" and a prayer of the Reverend Lion, an old man Optina. This is the publication of a kind of Moscow arrival (by the way, printed without the blessing of the His Holiness Patriarch); publication of the Holy Assumption Pskov-Pechersk Monastery (also without an archpastric blessing); This canon and prayer entered the book published by Sretensky monastery - "prayers about the departed" (the publication personally did not see if it was blessed with Holiness Patriarch I do not know). A small book "How to pray for suicides", which is a copy of the first two with a number of additions, published in 2004 on the blessing of the Archbishop of Ufa and Sterlitamak Nikon.
Despite the fact that the creator of the canon Metropolitan of Veniamin (Fedchenkov) was a wonderful devotee of the Orthodoxy of the XX century, in the report of His Holiness Patriarch of Moscow and All Russia Alexy II on the Bishop Cathedral in 1997 "We need more control over the publication and introduction to the use of new liturgical texts to avoid such misunderstandings, as a publication by one Moscow arrival of the dubious of the theological and canonical point of view" Canon about self-friendly belly of their dies. "Indeed, it draws attention to itself that all prayerful subsequent suicides, which are now recommended for certain reservations for the celon (home) reading only to the last century. In a thorough pre-revolutionary manual for the priests of the same S.V. Bulgakova, unfortunately, there is no clarification how homemade suicides should be made, except:
"... The Samara Spiritual Consistory in 1894, the refusal of one of the participants in the burial in the Orthodox rite of a woman, who worked in a drunken form, was recognized as correct; Moreover, the local consists of the consistency, the resolution on the meaningful woman "I allow only make funny, with alms in memory of her, and her Orthodox funeral does not decide to resolve "."
Unified Cathedral Church Opinion Expediencyprayer celon (home) commemoration of suicide shower,
to facilitate their status in hell, and even save them from hell NOT
In one of the brochures, which addressed the possibility of commemoration of suicides, was given one pre-revolutionary story.
"In the city of Buzuluki, that near Orenburg, a rich man lived at one time. He had his favorite son. At that time, they found him a bride, and she was not like him. They wanted to marry, and he hanged him from his insult. For parents, it was a terrible blow. They are people believers, in many temples served in monasteries - they asked to pray. And everyone refused. We went to St. Grad Jerusalem, and refused there. The Holy Mount Athos refused ... They found one rejection, who advised them on their own funds on the bell tower to cast the biggest bell and sacrifice to church. So done. When the bishop became the bell to sanctify, hit it 12 times, as it shoulded, the sound went heavy, , and the bishop said: "It is impossible to call them any holidays or in the post, but only when the dead man is removed." The walls of the bell tower often fled, from this moisture constantly rotted the floor on the bell tower and it was often changed. And then the letter came from the Holy Mountain, in which it was written: we tried to pray for a suicier, but the Lord does not accept our prayers, he does not accept the bell ring ... The bell was removed and buried in the ground. "
The young man who committed suicide was young, baptized, it seems, like everything, much more often, modern Christian-Major visited worship, he took Holy Communion, fastened, confessed his sins before the priest, and, and, judging by the times, it is unlikely that he is unlikely True sinned. And what was this young man who was pardoned? This, alas, now the youth passes to twenty years of life The XIXVEK goes around everything Europe - already, it would seem, deserves attention and condescending God. However, the Lord in what will find, about that and judges ....
On the other hand archimandrite John (Peastery), the confessor of the Pskov-Pechersk monastery in one of the letters of the mother whose son committed himself wrote: "But about the son to pray in the church is really impossible - this is the definition of the sacred catches of the Holy Fathers, such canonics. It prays the same house, all the soul mourners and wounded to God, must certainly. And the answer is the matter of God, we can't predict him and cannot be solved for God. Saving obedience to the Church, leave in your heart the hope of God's mercy to his mother prayer. Read the canon for the life of your interrupted life (written by Metropolitan Veniamin - approx. Ms),if possible, with desire. First try to read 40 days daily. And the prayer that is in the canon, let him comfort you daily, and she will help his son. Good serve for the son of alms in need. Hope with faith - lamps in our lives. And the Lord is mercy and love. We hope for it. "
All these commemorations collected in the specified brochure are only a private opinion of individual members of the Church. Their righteousness and holiness, alas, is not a guarantee of the correctness of their advice, consistency with God's will. Unfortunately, we now have full of people, blindly identifying the opinion of a pious elder or a devotee with the opinion of God himself, like "the words of the elder are the words of God."
Jerome Bosch. Fragment of Triptych "Scary Court" - the right sash "hell", 1504
Not every black soul can beat God's grace and grace
Holy Apostle John, the Apostle "Love", as it is sometimes called in the church, commanded: "If someone sees his brother of his sinless sin, then let him pray, and God will give him life, that is, the sinless sin is not to death ..."however, I warned immediately "... there is a sin to death: not about Tom saying he prayed" (1in.5: 16), that is, people who are in such a fallen state that any prayer for their salvation in vain.
Or here - "Who does not love the Lord Jesus Christ, Anathema, Maran-Afa"(1 Cor.16: 22). Scary words!
Evangelical Scriptures and Apostolic Messages do not give reason to believe that Christ can save people forcibly, and the soul of man who did not take care of clearing her himself during life through repentance and faith in Christ, it is unlikely that the Lord can clean, even if relatives are so hot.
Archimandrite AMVROSII (Jurases) Takes such a story:
"The Lord does not want the death of a sinner, and who will turn to him - saves. He only calls for repentance, he loves everyone and wants no soul to die. No wonder the Lord himself took the flesh of man, went to the ground and suffered for us. This means that he suffered for all how many people were, there will be in the world.
But a man is given free will - repent, take into myself the living Christ, or reject it.
When I served in the Preobrazhensky Cathedral, it was often necessary to travel to the city. Once I went for one call; I enter the apartment, they meet me, they say: "Batyushka, here is a man here is 51 years old, calling Anatoly - it would be necessary to fail, and gently". I went, I watch: after the operation lies the patient, the intestine brought him into the stomach. Near a bottle of water, on her nipple. Constantly he drove his lips, he keeps this nipple in his mouth. I ask:
-Anatoly, are you when confessed?
- Never.
- And you wish to search for, coming up?
- And I have nothing to repent!
- Well, how? You never went to the church in my life, I didn't pray to God, Matu swore, drunk, smoked, fought, lived nevented with his wife. All life is a solid sin.
- I don't want to repent!
And women, near those who stood, say:
- Anatoly, how?! After all, you agreed to call the priest. You need to repent - you will immediately get on my soul.
- I do not want to repent.
I talked with him, spent 20 minutes, I say:
- Now - imagine - Christ himself came to you in the holy secrets, it is waiting for repentance from you. If you do not shift and do not come, you die - your soul will take evil spirits. And then it would be happy to repent, I would be happy to correct - and you will not have such an opportunity. It is necessary to repent, while alive.
- What deserved, then I will get! - He speaks.
I finished talking, began to dress. And women (neighbor) began to convince him, they say: "Anatoly, dress up - what you say! After all, it is so important to every person (especially the patient) to repent before death! " And he says to them:
- You do not persuade me.
I dressed:
- Well, goodbye. If he wishes to confess - give you to know, we will arrive.
And one of them is suitable:
- Batyushka, last talk to him for the last time: suddenly will agree. I approached, sat near him:
- Well, Anatoly, do you want to repent or not?
He is silent. I look, and his eyes are glazed. I say:
- Yes, he dies.
Women:
- How? He felt good!
"He dies," I look: he sighed three times - and the soul came out. " Of course, this unrearious soul was taken by demons. That's where fear is horror! After all, a person left this world to eternity. Billions of years will pass suffering in fire - this is only the beginning, the end will never be. And such an excellent opportunity to repent! Not all people are advised to come to them a priest, brought holy secrets - the body and blood of Christ ... Here, such terrible are death. "
Can God save this not wanting to escape a person? And who will behave that suicide at the time of death did not have the same attitude towards God and his church?
Some can reasonably notice - that it is useful to breed demagogy here - it is useful or uncommon to pray to the home prayer for suicides, according to Christian mercy and compassion, it is necessary to pray for those, and the Lord will judge. According to the first impression, such judgments seem justified. But…
Praying, get ready for serious temptations
This prayer is not ecstatic meditation, it is a work, but a prayer for suicides, unresolved people and great sinners - this grave work! While you encounter strong spiritual temptations and worsening health not only the prayer room, but perhaps all members of his family.
There is reason to believe that, perceiving the memory of the soul of the deceased, praying at the same time, as it were, the general studio and his mental state is made in the region of his mental volumes, it comes into contact with his sins, crude repentance.
If the deceased was an Orthodox Christian and once in the earthly life he applied to God with a prayer for mercy and forgiveness, then the same prayers who pray for him loves God's Mercy and forgiveness to him. And if the soul passed into another world in the mood, hostile to the church? As you can, praying for unresolved or baptized, but who left the faith, to allow him to some touch to the goggle-minded mood, which was infected with the soul? How to perceive all those mockery, bully, insane speeches and thoughts, who were full of their souls? Does this mean to expose their soul the danger of infection with such moods? All of this should be thought of those who reproach the church in a merciless.
Indicative is the case of the saint rev. Serafima Sarovsky, he told that he managed to pour some kind of great sinner, so after that, he, he was a great righteous, a monk, tightly drilled several months.
What awaits not such righteous Christians as sv. Seraphim Sarov, who took their prayers to "save" the dear relative who killed himself?! Large temptations and health problems.
Experience testifies that with the beginning of a celian prayer commemoration, not even a suicide, but about a unresolved parent, deceased, alas, in a challenge, almost almost immediately, the disease was rolling on a praying, then to his wife (her husband), and then - for children. Lord have mercy! I am aware of a woman who diligently prayed for her naked father during pregnancy - the case ended with miscarriage.
One of the Ufa priests told me a case when the young man who began to be diluted in the Soviet years, who began to be diluted, in his excessive diligence, decided to save the souls of the dead, whose bodies lie at the Demussian Cemetery near the city of Ufa. There, he made a big list with the names of the departed, and prayed for the rest of all in a row. Wild scandals between him and his wife began in the family, it came to divorce, his adult children were allowed into all grave sins; Of course, there were diseases, not in best side The spiritual life of this person has changed. Holy Rev. Moses Ufimsky, to which this Christian then appealed to the Council, first asked him for whom he prays. When he told about his prayer "feat", the first words of the pretended were not at all biblical: "Are you a fool?!", And after strictly forbade him to do this, pointing out that there are many serious sinners: suicides, bootiers, drunks and T.P.
Pray for unresolved in Orthodoxy relatives is also not just
The conversation about unreleased people was not accidentally started. In practice it turns out that a person is not only a suicide, but also a non-Christian.
Well known canon to St. Martyr Wara for unrearen people. However, few people carefully read the stories accompanying this canon on how one unresolved young man was pardoned on the prayers of this righteous, and comprehendedly talked to live.
This young man, first, was a young man, sorry on the pun, which means that, because of his age, it did not have time to be heated in a lot and hard; Secondly, apparently, was a pious; Third, he had a very pious christian mother (agree, it is important); Fourth, knew about Christ, and, apparently, she was preparing to take holy baptism, but did not have time (previously, Christians went to the announced not week - another, and months, and then years); Fifth, who were announced in those days, might sincerely died in their sins, even without the confession of the priest, so who will objected to me that such sincerely repentance in sins is not delessful and useless? What, I actually lead? Such a pious young man, the son of the pious of the Christian mother, already wished to Christ, the Holy Uaru did not cost the labor to pour out before God.
Now imagine, for example, who deceased in old age, a woman who lived in a discernie, a blasphemy, damable, who did an abortion that attractives (who did not turn into Soviet times?), Etc., in short, with a great multitude of all sorts of unreasonable sins. What can be hoped for, trying to pray for her salvation to the Holy Waru?!
However, the soul of relatives is still growing in despair, will it really be absolutely able to save or improve the position, suicide, as well as naked affinities?
If the spouse is pregnant, if there are breast and small children in the family - categorically refrain from home prayer for suicides and unresolved, especially for unresolved suicides to avoid health problems in small family members, pregnant and lactating women.
If all the above these conditions do not belong to you, of course, you can try to hold on to this homely prayer feat. but Before Take the blessing of the priest, and if he refuses, do not actually - it will not end, and remember "obedience more post and prayer."
It is better to start your prayer feat, imposing the post (necessarily for the blessing!) Or during multi-day posts, if the current of the forty days after the death of Cemely about such dead people no one prayed. Rev. Netary Optina advised to pray together at the same time at least at least three Christians at once. Before and during when you pray, confess and often take the holy communion, it is better even weekly (again for the blessing). Take a part of the prosphora and holy water every day. Order Sorokoust about healthy yourself and close family members. Remember, the prayer about suicides and great sinners is a big spiritual feat, do not create it resembling, from the case towards the case. I repeat, it is quite possible, perceiving the memory of the soul of the deceased, praying at the same time, as it were, the general studio and his mental state is made in the region of his mental volumes, it comes into contact with his sins, crude repentance. Naturally, nothing good cannot be expected. Even such a great devotee like Seraphim Sarovsky, he was seriously a prayerful work about some serious sinner.
There is one more, it seems, a very pious and correct way to displays mercy from God for any person. Read on a par with the prayers of the Gospel about the salvation of his soul one - two chapters per day - "So faith from hearing, and hearing from the word of God"(Rome.10: 17). Where does the saving faith comes from in Christ the deceased nobility and Malover suicides, if he does not know "Words of God"? Alas, this is our common trouble - many Orthodox Christians, even grandmothers participating in worships almost every day, do not read, or little read the sacred writing.
If you started praying, and you have, with your loved ones, children, serious health problems began, immediately leave your efforts and simply accept the mercy of God's mercy about the fate of this soul of man.
"The Justice of God does not make mistakes, and calm themselves, Eliko is possible" - wisely wrote already mentioned Archimandrite John (Peastery).
Having resigned With the fact of the suicide of a person close to you, live with a decent righteous Christian life with faith in Christ the Savior, so that your soul reunited with the Lord after death in Paradise, and there really he himself find the Divine Will on this occasion. If there is a certain benefit from your prayer suicide, pray already to the kingdom of God diligently. Christians ask the righteous prayers in the waters of God, now the upcoming Rai, about themselves and the dead amplifiers. So what prevents the Christian to be in paradise, pray for himself about his relatives in hell?
Save you yourself, and thousands will be saved around - Do not forget these words of Rev. Seraphim Sarovsky.
Lord, have mercy and save us!
Maxim Stepanenko,head
Missionary Department of the Ufa Diocese
Russian Orthodox Church
According to the materials of the Orthodox press
Church and Medicine on Suicide Problem
Source: Ufa Diocesan Vedomosti, No. 2-3, 2006
We have to note that the flow of stages addressed to the archbishop of Ufa and Sterlitamak Nikon with a request to resolve the funeral to the suicide does not excinerate ... According to the head of the Diocesan Office of the Head. Fedor Galkina has almost no week, when such a petition did not bring at least once, more often 2 - 3, at the same time 5-6 people a week, baptized in Orthodoxy, but low-member, impose on their hands. The current situation makes us appeal in this missionary sheet to such a terrible topic as suicide.
Attitude of the Orthodox Church to suicide
Voluntary deprivation of life of life, even if it is a flight from suffering, Christians have always been perceived as a serious sin that the church on Earth can no longer let go, because every sin is released only at repentance.
The sin of suicide develops both from the very fact of murder (himself in this case) and sins of disbelief and smallness (basically gods, gentlemen, pagans and unchurched people), a malignancy, sins of despair and despair, through which suicide refuses to bear his life cross, Dumbnamed in the savory fishery of God about every person. It aggravates the situation and the inconspicuous sins of fornication can also reach the suicides, not reading parents, occultation by occultism (fortune investigation, astrology, magic, etc.), theft, lies, etc.
The church teaches that every Christian has his own cross (always given by God set!), Through who courageous, Using on God, we get salvation: "... Jesus told his disciples: if anyone wants to go for me, reject him, and Take your own cross, and follow me "(MF.16: 24). We perceive this cross is not as the deliberate torment of the "evil and unfair" of God, as an instrument of our perfection, like a fire that turns a piece of ore into solid steel, like a grinding machine that turns the dim impends diamond into a sparkling diamond. Make think of the words of the Holy Scriptures: "... We know that a loving God designed to envelope, everything contributes to good" (Rome.8: 28). Please note - "everything contributes to good," and "all" means sorrow.
However, often the root cause of our problems - we ourselves, more precisely, our rooting in lawlessness. Under the clue, it turns out that he is not God, and the man himself his sinful, godless and unrighteous life brought himself to a situation inclined to suicide. "The sting of death is sin" (1 Cor.15: 56) - writes St. Apostle Paul. Therefore, it is repentance in his sins save and "updates" (EU.66: 6) of a person, at the same time it should be noted "... sadness for the sake of God produces a constant repentance to salvation, and the sorrows worldly produces death" (2Kor.7: 10) . Is this the reason for the increasing suicide in our more and more successful society?
According to church canons, suicides (as such are also killed on duels; criminals killed during a differential; people who insisted on their euthanasia) and even suspected suicide (it is not accepted to avoid sinking under unknown circumstances) cannot be span in the temple Prayer for Liturgy and on the Panhid. Suices do not bury in church cemeteries.
In the well-known pre-revolutionary manual for priests S.V. Bulgakov, with reference to the decision of the Holy Synod dated July 10, 1881, it is indicated that those who died from the binge (if it was not proven that those drank in order to poison themselves alcohol), are not counted for suicians, on the basis of that "... For death from the feed It is preceded by a loss of reason, which does not happen when the use of other means to conscious suicide ... " Although, almost all drunkards clearly realize that the excessive use of alcohol is mortally for health. Not everything is simple and in cases of death of drug addicts from overdose, since directly by the adoption of the drug addict is in consciousness, unlike a winding alcoholic, which takes the latter, the deadly portions of alcohol are clearly in an unbearable state.
Psychology and Psychiatry of Suicide
Although the first base of suicides, in the opinion of the Church, is a legitolide and a small factors, and socio-psychological factors that must be taken into account in the prevention of suicides are not important.
In order to obtain a psychological and social portrait of modern suicides, find out the psychological reasons, pushing a person for this tight sin, we turned for an interview to the main psychiatrist of Ufa, a deserved doctor Russian Federation and the Republic of Bashkortostan Yuri Alexandrovich Anokhin.
- Yuri Aleksandrovich, how acute now is the problem of suicide in Russia and Bashkortostan?
- The combined data on the level of accomplishment of suicides and the number of their attempts in Bashkortostan is not. These data are "scattered" between bailiffs, psychiatrists and resuscitatives. Perhaps this is due to the overwhelming of our medical statistics, or the reluctance to open the degree of acuteness of this problem and spoil the log of social and economic well-being.
- However, we have certain data. So, in Ufa for the third quarter of 2005, 25 suicide attempts were made only among young people, i.e. These young people attempted suicide, a psychiatric rehabilitation was rescued and sent. How many people broke up with life, I do not know. On the average, we are observing 20-45 attempts of suicide quantities, total per year to 150-180 attempts by suicide on Ufa. Mostly, people are engaged in drugs and household chemicals, which is more often ends with simply monstrous lesions of internal organs - esophagus, stomach, liver, etc. Treatment and psychological rehabilitation of people after failed suicides is a state in colossal funds. And if we consider that many of them become life disabled, requiring permanent social and expensive medical support, not to mention the price of the life of the dead, just amazing and sadly that there are still no programs for the prevention of this terrible phenomenon.
- In Russia, in general, this statistic is very terrible - 38 suicide per year per year per 100 thousand people of the population, while the Middle Agency is 14.5-15 people. The level of suicide, which indicates the deep moral and psychological degeneration of the nation - 20 people per 100 thousand population.
- depressing that 75% of suicides are able-bodied people to retirement age. Only in our country most suicides are men who cum 5 times more often than women. Although suicidal attempts more often make women. For one finished suicide - women accounted for from 7 to 11 attempts. The most problematic regions in recent years - Koryak and Komi-Permytsky Autonomous Okrug, Udmurtia, Altai Republic. Alas, in most national formations, suicide levels above, and it is higher than the north of the territory, although this indicator is very low in Dagestan. Very little suicide in Moscow and St. Petersburg.
- What is it connected with?
- According to sociologists and psychologists, this is due to both the socio-economic condition of the region and the religiousness of the population. Orthodox Christians and Muslims consider suicide to grave, mortal sin. In the regions listed by me, paganism is widespread, shamanism. In addition, there are very few temples and mosques in the north due to the low population density, which creates difficulties in religious education of people.
- What is the psychological portrait of people trying to kill themselves?
- Psychologists have studied the person of suicide, which turned out to have a certain originality - this is impulsiveness, psychological immaturity, or, in other words, infantilism, emotional instability, uncompromising, limited thinking when choosing options for solving the established problem. And all this is due, above all, poor education of children family. The mental state of Russian society is extremely unfavorable. For example, over the past ten years, Ufa has a continuous growth of mental disorders by 4000 - 5,000 people per year. At present, under psychiatric observation there are about 50 thousand Ufimtsev, and this is a figure, alas, not final, in my opinion, people with a problem psyche much more.
- Recently, psychological studies have been held in Ufa and Kazan among industry workers, in front of which, notice, is sharply worth the problem where to take a piece of bread. Of these, 7% are in a state of expressed depression and 40% have various neurotic psychic disorders that adversely affect their life. That is, half of the able-bodied adult population is in conditions, gently expressing, in a state of psychological discomfort.
- Explain to readers, what are these neurotic disorders?
- This is a depressive state to varying degrees, incontinence, aggressiveness, health problems, since mental disorder almost always causes a violation of the functions of any organ or system in the body. This is usually sleeping, a sense of workload, anxiety, the desire will turn off from the surrounding reality with alcohol or even computer games, the inability to focus on work and work in full force.
- the overwhelming number of people is not sure of tomorrow, and expect only trouble from the future. We are afraid of change, and, probably, it is based on centuries-old experience that any changes in Russia are poured into deterioration in the human life.
- What other are common causes of suicide?
- Half suicides in young people cause family conflicts. Rarely, but there are cases of suicide of seriously ill people. There was a completely new reason - loss in slot machines. A lot of suicides (every third) committed in a state of alcohol intoxication when the adequacy of behavior is very violated.
- Tell more details about the causes of suicide in young people.
- Not only schoolchildren, but also students who have suicide differ infancelism. This is absolutely immature personalities, although they are fully physically and physically developed, but the head is still in childhood. There is no sense of responsibility, the ability to predict the consequences of their actions. Such young people react to what is happening completely in childish.
Yuri Aleksandrovich, List medical cards, lists:
- Seventeen-year-old guy tried to poison because of the resentment on the drawing teacher, he allegedly put the wrong rating ...
- The girl wanted to die due to the permanent reproaches of the mother about her late returns home ...
- Attempt of suicide due to conflict with peers in the study group ...
- Quarrel with mom ...
- Quarrel with mom ...
- conflict with parents ...
- The girl could not return home from the wedding of rustic relatives, and because of the fear of the reproaches of the mother committed itself ...
- Or just incredible - soulbide for the company! The girlfriend quarreled with his parents, and the girl to "morally support" with her jumped with a multi-storey building. There was a time, in Russia there was a whole wave of such suicides "for the company", the reasons for which are still not clear.
- Although, although in general, suicides are more among men, among young people under 18, they are trying to commit to end the girl, about 80% of all cases. As a rule, in these cases, parents cannot accept the obviously disturbing behavior of their daughter - suspicious men's companies, late walks, alcohol consumption. And as a protest response to try to enjoy such a daughter - an attempt of suicide.
- Due to psychological infantilism, young people cannot respond to their actions and take an adult and proper decision. Teens do not even try to solve the conflict with parents through negotiations and discussion in the constructive bed: let's discuss your point of view, my point of view and come to a mutually satisfying solution; I am already an adult man, and I have the right to independent decisions that require understanding and respect on your part. Uncompromising, the inability to find a way out of conflict, plus not respect for parents is one of the characteristic features of young suicides.
- Are there any cases of suicide among drug addicts?
- I am unknown about suicide attempts among addicts in Ufa. Perhaps they are, but, probably, they are always injected radically and from overdose, such data has foreshadches.
- What is the proportion among suicides of people with obvious mental illness?
- The share of mentally patients among suicidents is no more than 15%, while they most often make very fade, unusual attempts of suicide.
- Does some preventive work on preventing suicides and how effective is psychological and psychiatric assistance, which has official medicine to people after failed suicides?
- Our urban psycho-neurological service has opened a telephone number several years ago, unfortunately, only one-channel trust, which was planned as a suicidological, i.e. Phone psychological assistance to people who think about suicide. However, it very soon, he turned into a telephone help of a common psychotherapeutic profile, the number of people with suicidal behavior make up less than 10% of all the calls. How efficiently such a telephone consulting is difficult to say, but since people treat, it means there is a need for our help and support.
"People, especially old men, disabled people, who are very lonely, and I want to just talk and" cry in a vest, "because of them, it is very difficult to get through the rest. Of course, such a single-channel phone confidence in a million city is very small, but, alas, and he will soon cease to exist, thanks to the current reforms in the field of health. So from January 2006, in addition to our urban psychoneurological dispensary, and urban narcological, and skin-neurological dispensaries will be disbanded, all assistance will be focused only in the respective district offices. Because of a lot of highly qualified specialists will be without work or at best will go into commercial medicine. So the fate of our confidence phone is under a big question.
- As for the effectiveness of our psychological rehabilitation of people saved after suicide attempts, of course, it is. However, there are a lot of repeated suicide attempts. Agree, it is very difficult to redo several conversations for the years formed, aimed at self-destruction, change the consequences of destructive parenting education, to make a young man from Infantile, adult adequately thinking personality. In addition, the level of human religiosity is not the least, but this is not our competence. Unfortunately, we have no cooperation with Orthodox, nor Muslim clergy for the rehabilitation of such people.
- What will you advise parents in general to prevent suicides, and parents whose children already declare their desire to make such a terrible act?
Before, be sensitive parents to everything that happens with children. Alas, most parents do not like problems and tribulations from their children, and, having learned about them, they are filled with solving these problems almost a stone wall. And it turns out that the mother mother recognizes the most latter that her daughter is pregnant, or parents understand that their son addict, only a few months later, when he has already started stealing from the class of value. Well, and the problems of adolescent children on the basis of unhappy love, conflicts with peers in the courtyard, in the classroom or student group almost always remain unknown for parents ...
- As I said, there are a lot of spontaneous suicides that occur after family conflicts among young people. If, inside the family, parents and children cannot find a compromise, of course, you need to contact specialists or even smart and respected relatives, elder friends. Or, for example, to the priest. After all, from the side it is always easier to understand the problem. Everything changes, and children grow, and parents are aging, you need to learn to find a common language in the family. IN modern society The authoritarian type of parent education is that I used to be a father / mother (-A) we have listened unquestionable - not effective. Respect for the present youth to parents has fallen sharply. There are data from sociological surveys for which less than half of adolescents want to be similar to parents, and they have continued authority and respect.
It is necessary to pay more attention not to young, no, no - it is impossible to say, you need to pay attention more to each other.
- I want to note, the specified teenage infantilism is combined with a colossal Khamsky attitude towards parents, senior people! You are dressed, wish, fed, the higher education is paid for you. Yes, the parents are not Abramovichi, they can not afford the dear clothes, cars, recreation in Hawaii. Although why, you have to relax in Hawaii, you have not done anything useful for society yet. Live on the principle of advertising that you are worth it, just because it appeared on the light - it is incorrect and dangerous.
- Why are you so badly opposing the parents who were raised? Well, the parents grumble on you, well, they are old and backward from life, with other moral values \u200b\u200b... Is it a reason to hate them and do not respect? Yes, they are stupid! Why stupid?! They do not understand anything in computers! They are not disassembled in music! What can you talk about them!
- And disrespect for parents is combined with arrogant consumer requests. Require, to ask young people can, but something to give, help parents cannot. They do not realize that life is a system of interconnection. However, in this unconditional wine and parents - a city single-metal family, well-maintained living conditions, lack of work in its subsidiary farm - children grow unfounded work around the house, care for younger brothers and sisters. The current parents give the first tallery piece of children, pink them to whims, in the transport of children sit in the chair, and their parents themselves, like other adults stand. And then they are surprised that those grow by the egoists!
- So, mutual love and patience in the family, upbringing in the child of the creator, and not the consumer, respectful attitude towards parents, is not in vain in the Bible it says: "Read your father and your mother, so that you feel good and to last your days" - Here are the first conditions for preventing suicide among young people.
- Adults and old men, first of all, you need patience and confidence in the future, understanding the meaning of life, which, unfortunately, one psychological training can not be brought up, as it is impossible to immediately increase wages and retirement. Moreover, in the West there are a lot of cases of suicide among wealthy people. Therefore, for adults, the first factor restraining them from suicide is their religiosity.
Myths and Realities of Suicide
A close, encountered with the desires of their relative, to end with you, it is important to be able to separate some false stereotypes that exist in the public consciousness (and they themselves may not be fully delivered from them), from scientific facts. It is appropriate to bring some typical opinions about suicides to relate them to the real position of things.
1. When people talk about committing suicide, they are just trying to attract attention. It is best to ignore them. - false judgment.
People who talk about suicide or commit a suicidal attempt are in a state of strong emotional pain and try to put other people in fame. Never ignore the threat of suicide or the ability to discuss the planned suicide.
2. Suicide happens without warning. - false judgment.
Research suggests that a suicidal personality gives a lot of warning signs and "keys" to the randering of its plans. Approximately 8 out of 10 suicidal personalities hint around their intentions (suicide spontaneously perform more often than adolescents - this was already mentioned the chief psychiatrist. Ufa Yu.A. Anokhin - approx. MS).
3. The tendency to suicide is inherited. - false judgment.
The propensity to suicide is not transmitted genetically.
4. Suicide happens at all levels of society and in all social classes. - True judgment.
It is known that Suicide is committed by people from all social classes and levels of society with a similar frequency.
5. All suicidal individuals suffer from mental disorders. - false judgment.
Not all people who commit suicide are mentally sick. Personality with suicidal installation feels hopelessness and helplessness, do not see the exit from the emotionally painful state. It does not mean at all that they suffer from mental disorders.
6. A conversation about suicide can encourage suicide. - false judgment.
The conversation about suicide cannot be the reason for its commit. If not to talk about this topic, it is impossible to determine whether the danger of suicide is real. Conversation - often the first step in preventing suicide.
7. If a person in the past committed a suicidal attempt, this does not mean that he will always be a suicidal personality. - True judgment.
The suicidal crisis is usually temporary and does not last the entire life of the individual. If a person gets help during and after a suicidal crisis, then it is most likely to find alternative paths. Such awareness reduces the likelihood of suicidal attempts in the future.
8. People who are athecking suicide are always fully configured for dying. - false judgment.
The overwhelming majority of people with suicidal intentions fluctuate in the choice between life and death. They are more likely to get rid of intolerable emotional pain than really want to die.
9. Men kill themselves more often than women. - True judgment.
Men kill themselves about 3 times more often than women because they choose more efficient methods, leaving little opportunities for salvation.
10. Men are trying to commit suicide more often than women. - false judgment.
Women commit suicidal attempts about 3 times more often than men.
11. Most people who die as a result of completed suicide tried to commit suicide earlier. - True judgment.
The commission of preliminary suicidal attempts increases the risk of completion of the subsequent suicide, especially if no one helped the suicide earlier. Most people who have committed to themselves have been suicidally tuned in the past.
12. All actions during suicidal attempt are impulsive and indicate a small preliminary planning or the absence of such. - false judgment.
Not all suicides are impulsive. Most suicidents predetermine their plans, often hinting about their intentions around them before killing themselves.
13. Many suicidal individuals are in depressive condition. - True judgment.
Depression is among people with suicidal ideas by the common state.
14. There is no significant connection between drugs, toxicomicia, alcoholism and suicidal behavior. - false judgment.
Dependence on alcohol or drugs (toxic substances) is a risk factor of suicide. People who are in depressive condition often use alcohol and other substances to cope with the situation. This can lead to an increase in impulsive auto-aggressive behavior due to the fact that all these substances distort perception and significantly reduce the critical functions of thinking.
Do not neglect suicidal statements - it is better to be restrained than to underestimate the risk of suicide. A conversation with a potential suicidend is advisable to build according to the following approximate plan:
1. Express your personality interest and fate of the interlocutor, and if it is appropriate, then love for him.
2. Ask questions in a straight, sincere and calm manner; Use the technique of active listening.
3. Find out how clear the image of the future suicidal action is formed at the interlocutor:
- Does he have a suicidal plan;
- Is time planned and place of execution;
- were suicidal thoughts and attempts in the past;
- How he himself assesses the likelihood of his suicide. Remember that the more thoroughly developed a plan, the greater the likelihood of its implementation.
4. Try to find out the causes and conditions for the formation of suicidal intentions. Do not force the interlocutor to talk about them if the story is too painful for him.
5. Encourage him to express his feelings due to the problem area of \u200b\u200bhis relationship.
6. Ask whether he had to tell anyone about what he says now. This question will help to push the interlocutor to think that, perhaps the main problem in the social (self) isolation.
7. Be prepared for the fact that you will be involved (perhaps for a long time) into psychotherapeutic work with your interlocutor.
What should not do:
"Do not respond to statements about suicidal intentions (how ridiculous, from your point of view, they did not sound) with replicas of type:" I don't want to hear about such nonsense "," Is it worth talking about things that you still do not make anything? ". Such responses can only force your interlocutor to regret that he took advantage of the crisis line;
- Do not show that you are shocked by the statements of applicable, even if you really experienced an emotional shock;
- Do not join the discussion about suicide admissibility. Let me know only that you do not want the interlocutor to leave life.
According to the book "Content and organization of activities of emergency psychological assistance centers" Phone Trust ". - M.: Research Institute of Family and Education, 1999.
If you bland about suicide thoughts
FM Dostoevsky invested in the mouth of his literary hero very loyal thought - "If God is not - everything is possible." As one Ufa priest told me, who had to talk about two hours with a woman with a pancreatic cancer and wanting suicide. It was not possible to approach her to call for proper faith in God and repentance. All of his arguments came out for inconceivable barriers from false philistine, occasional-sectarian judgments for one or another issues. It is difficult to imagine how much pseudo-dodged garbage and worldly bad and delusions prevented this woman to come to God. This is true for almost all people inclined to suicide. It is a spiritual garbage and darkness in their souls brings them to this madness. For hundreds of intelligent "yes," a suicide will find a hundred "no".
First of all, you do not need to deceive yourself. Although you wish to stop a painful stream of consciousness in this world for you, you have a fear of death and live, nevertheless, I want, of course, in a different way. Another question is that you do not have a recipe yet, how to live differently, how to adapt to the difficult circumstances that you will cope with physical or mental pain that overcomes you. There is no such suicide that would not want to live. Another thing is that he does not know how to adapt circumstances and find the will to live in itself.
You also need to be aware of what the suicides wish are the cessation of consciousness, but it is precisely it does not stop with death! Soul, like a carrier of consciousness, eternal.
Scripture describes the state of the sinner in hell, as a state of deletion from God. The Lord says to sinners: "... go away from me, making lawlessness" (MF.7: 23). At the same time, sinners, in contrast to the righteous, do not have peace: "... the worm does not die, and the fire does not fade away" (MK. 9:44).
And the cause of these torments, according to the Church, is a remorse of conscience and unsatisfied passion, because of what the continuous "crying and grinding of the teeth" stands in the hell "(MF.8: 12). At the same time, as it is not difficult to guess, crying is a consequence of the remorse of conscience ("worm", as its symbol), and the crushes of the teeth comes from the end of the soul of passion ("flame" as its symbol).
It is necessary to realize that the reason for the torment of the sinner in hell he himself, as well as the inability to find relief from God. The degree of torment is not difficult to submit. The deceased drug addict, who could not defeat the passion for drugs, will experience eternal breaking and the need for drugs, drunkard - eternal hangover and alcohol cravings, a smoker is an unbearable tobacco desire. The clodnik will overcome the desire to satisfy her lust, the worship - hunger and the desire of exquisite dishes, meat ... In general, everything that a person could not curb in himself with God's assistance, will hide in it on a line of life with a painful flame, because where His soul will find drugs, delicious food or the object of satisfying lust?
Yes, with a violent death you will interrupt your current painful condition in the material world, but there, behind the line of life you will find yourself forever with your fear and horror, despair and despondency, wild pain. Fix your desperate state now. Presented, realized? So all this will last forever, forever ... forever .... for where can the suicide of calm down in the darkness of the hello? Such terrible eternal dive of horror ...
The story is a lot of examples of the incredible power of the spirit and human mind. Thousands of Christians, both in antiquity and in the Stalinist godless power, died in terrible exercises, going to death, but did not reject Christ. Yes, and people are far from the saints showed the wonders of patience and will with the hardest tests - this is completely paralyzed, with limited vision and hearing a young man who has become a prominent physician scientist and laureate nobel Prize; This is a pilot flying without the feet of both feet; and the circus actress, fallen from under the dome itself, who had worried almost all the bones, from which her husband was immediately died, then tragically killed her sister, and who won all the monstrous physical and mental pain, but survived and lives, not Life; This is once a beautiful girl, on the person of which the monsters poured the acid that spacked her not only the skin, but also the bones of the skull, which moved dozens of operations, wild pain, but, despite this, firmly holds for life. And these sorrow are clearly not going to comparison with the quarrel with the supposedly "beloved" or an unfair evaluation of drawing!
A person can transfer any pain, grief, loss, treason, humiliation and deprivation. And almost always people, standing and adequately undergoing tests, become stronger spirit and successful. Let me remind you: "... We know that a loving God, designed to envelope, all contributes to good" (Rom.8: 28).
Contact people, to the elders who can be trusted, to psychologists, to the priest, read in the library of the biography of great people, many of which were harsh tests. Your life is now herself not because this is, but because you just do not know how to live with it and how to cope with it. Read the teachings of the Holy Fathers of the Orthodox Church that there is a despondency and despair, and how can you fight with it.
It is not necessary to ignore the help of qualified psychologists and psychiatrists, however, and to hope only for them, for always arising in such cases questions about death, human soul and its participation outside of this world are outside their competence.
And the most important thing is to apply for help to God himself. You ran so much from him, otherwise he insulted him, hated, you despised his words so much time and the church, they were founded, you have deprived of love of love "because God is love" (1in 4: 8) and a life source " ... who will drink the water that I will give him, he will not crave late; but the water I will give him, will be done in it the source of water flowing into the life of the eternal "(Ying.4: 14). Therefore, death began to absorb you!
It tells you the Lord Jesus Christ: "Come to me all those who are worried and burdened, and I will calm you" (MF.11: 28).
If the misfortune happened, is it possible to alleviate the fate of the soul suicide?
According to church canons, suicides (as such are also killed on duels; criminals killed during a differential; people who insisted on euthanasia) and even suspected suicide (it is not accepted to avoid drowning with unknown circumstances) cannot be spanning in the temple, remember in church prayer behind the liturgy and in the package. Suices do not bury in church cemeteries.
The exception is made only for suicides suffering from obvious mental pathology, and consisting on official psychiatric records. In such cases, it is necessary to provide the ruling bike of your diocese a certificate from a psychiatric institution, once supervising this unfortunate, and write the appropriate petition with a request to bless the church remembrance of such a person. Almost always such a blessing is given ...
In the well-known pre-revolutionary manual for priests S.V. Bulgakov, with reference to the decision of the Holy Synod dated July 10, 1881, it is indicated that those who died from the binge (if it was not proven that those drank in order to poison themselves alcohol), are not counted for suicians, on the basis of that "... For death from the feed It is preceded by a loss of reason, which does not happen when the use of other means to conscious suicide ... " Although, obviously, almost all drunkards are aware that the excessive use of alcohol is mortally for health. Not everything is simple and in cases of death of drug addicts from overdose, since directly by the adoption of the drug addict is in consciousness, unlike a winding alcoholic, which takes the latter, the deadly portions of alcohol are clearly in an unbearable state.
Who is deceiving yourself or God?
However, as practice shows, our people, especially from the Malvers, Church "Zakozhan" gives an excessive and false importance to church funeral, as a certain mystical action, after which the deceased automatically falls into paradise.
Meanwhile, according to the teachings of the church, the soul of man on the third day after death passes terrible Nataria. At this time, the soul of the deceased has a lot of need for the prayer assistance of relatives and the church. To facilitate the transition of the soul to another life, canon and psaltry read over the coffin, and the chin of funeral is performed in the temple. The first meaning of this service is the consolation of the soul of the deceased, and only then the grace of grace among the Lord for the soul, the petition of sins, who, alas, are automatically absolutely good in all cases.
Trying to see with what simply manic persistence Parents almost knock off the blessing from the Archbishop to the funeral of their suicide children who have never suffered mental disorders. Who are cheating? The priest, referring to the Lord, sings: "With the Holy People ...". Who with the saints rest?! Suicide?! Which, besides, despised the Church of Christ, as well as his parents who began to be baptized, only when a terrible thunder struck?
Saint Innocent Irkutsk, according to, by the way, the apostolic rules, asked relatives who brought to the church to the funeral of the dead: "And when was the last time he was in service?" - "Somewhere half a year ago" .- "Take a coffin. We have no right to relieve such."
The church prays only about their members, but almost always people reach suicide, which have long chosen themselves from the body of the Church. The Lord said: "I am a vine, and you branches; who dwells in me, and I am in him, he brings a lot of fetus; for nothing can do anything without me. Who will not be in me, will erupt the branch, and dried; And such branches are collected and thrown into the fire, and they burn "(In.15: 5-6) - in them and great consolation for loyal Christians, and a terrible warning for small believers and apostates.
Here are two letters of Archimandrite John Peastery, the confessor of the Pskov-Pechersk Monastery:
"Dear about the Lord A.! To commemorate and pray in the church about my mother you can not you, for there are canons who can not be abandoned. Mustache will entail terrible for dismissed consequences. He himself will give himself to the power of the enemy. But what is possible - writes about it. Vladyka Veniamin. And we send you a canon about the scope of your abdomen. Read at home 40 days every day This canon, and the prayer of Leo Optina read about mom all my life. Still applying to the mother of the alms to those who do not need anyone. Even someone else. It will give you permission to prayer in the church, then it will be harmful and mom and you yourself, because the canons of the church can not cancel. And obedience to them will decline the Lord for the mercy of you and to mom. I will keep you the Lord! "
"Slave of God V.! It is impossible to break the canons of church with impunity. You can't pray for your brother in the church. In vain you were troubled about his funeral, now at least stop collecting your wrath of God's head. You can pray about suicides only at home, and it is impossible Serve them in the church either on a liturgy, nor on the pack. Lord the judge, and you suffer to disobedience. "
The manic persistence of suicity affinies is often caused by a subconscious desire to shift all the responsibility for the further fate of his killed Chad to the church. Meanwhile, the greatest fault lies, first of all, on parents living in a challenge, and who did not give proper faith from a small age to their child, to which he could easily rely in a difficult moment.
Therefore, it is more correct to take responsibility for yourself, and the celino itself (at home) take a prayer feat (but not commemorate, and blessings and under certain conditions), with faith that the Lord will give a certain relief of the soul of suicide.
However, not everything is so simple ...
Pray, but carefully
Over the past few years have a selection of several brochures, which contain compounds on the home prayer for suicides with the canon "about the self-fired belly of their dies" and the prayer of the Reverend Lion, the elder Optina. This is the publication of a kind of Moscow arrival (by the way, printed without the blessing of the His Holiness Patriarch); publication of the Holy Assumption Pskov-Pechersk Monastery (also without an archpastric blessing); This canon and prayer entered the book published by Sretensky monastery - "prayers about the departed" (the edition personally did not see, and did not know if it was blessed with Holiness Patriarch). A small book "How to pray for suicides", which is a copy of the first two with a number of additions, published in 2004 on the blessing of the Archbishop of Ufa and Sterlitamak Nikon.
Despite the fact that the creator of the canon Metropolitan of Veniamin (Fedchenkov) was a wonderful devotee of the Orthodoxy of the 20th century, in the report of His Holiness Patriarch of Moscow and All Russia Alexy II at the Bishop Cathedral in 1997 http://www.sedmitza.ru/index.html? SID \u003d 50 & DID \u003d 40 say "It is necessary to have more control over the publication and introduction to the use of new liturgical texts to avoid such misunderstandings, as a publication by one Moscow arrival of a dubious and canonical point of view" Canon's diligent belly who fledged ". Indeed, pays attention to The fact that all prayerful subsequent suicides are recommended for certain reservations for the celon (home) reading only to the last century. In a thorough pre-revolutionary manual for the priests of the same S.V. Bulgakov, unfortunately, there is no clarification how should Homemade mating suicides, except:
"... The Samara Spiritual Consistory in 1894, the refusal of one of the participants in the burial in the Orthodox rite of a woman who was drunk in a drunken form was recognized as correct; where the consistency was placed by local consistent on this ruling:" I can only make fun , with alms in memory of her, and her Orthodox funeral is not decided to resolve "".
Unified Cathedral Church Opinion on Validity
prayer celon (home) commemoration of suicide shower,
to facilitate their condition, and even salvation
In one of the brochures, which addressed the possibility of commemoration of suicides, was given one pre-revolutionary story.
"In the city of Buzuluk, that near Orenburg, one time lived a rich man. He had a favorite son. At that time, he found him the bride, and she was not like him. Want to marry, and he hanged himself. For parents it was a terrible hit. They are people believers, for many temples were served in monasteries - they asked to pray. And everyone refused. We went to St. Grad Jerusalem, and they refused there. The Holy Mount Athos refused ... Found one rejection, who advised them to their funds on the bell tower Plant to cast the largest bell and sacrifice to church. So they did. When the bishop became the bell to sanctify, hit it 12 times, as it should be, the sound went heavy, guy, and the bishop said: "It is impossible to call them on holidays or in the post , Only when they bring the dead man. "The walls of the bell tower often stubbed, from this moisture constantly rotted the floor on the bell tower and he was often changed. And then the letter came from the Holy Mountain, in which it was written: we tried to pray for a suicier, but the Lord is not taking It makes our prayers, he does not accept the bell tongue ... The bell was removed and buried in the ground. "
The young man who committed suicide was young, baptized, it seems, like everything, much more often, modern Christian-Major visited worship, he took Holy Communion, fastened, confessed his sins before the priest, and, and, judging by the times, it is unlikely that he is unlikely True sinned. And what was this young man who was pardoned? This, alas, now youth passes to twenty years of life, all the circles of hell: insumere, hatred for parents, adultery, abortion, envy, false, drugs, foul language, passion for occultism ... But from a human point of view, even such an incredible diligence of parents - Try in the XIX century to go around everything Europe - it would seem that it would be worthy of attention and consecuting God. However, the Lord in what will find, about that and judges ....
On the other hand, Archimandrite John (peasantkin), the confessor of the Pskov-Pechersk monastery in one of the letters of the mother whose son committed himself wrote: "But it is really impossible to pray for a son - this is really the definition of the sacred cathedrals of the holy fathers, such is canonika. Praying at home , all the soul of the sorrowful and wounded to go, it is necessary, we must certainly. And the answer is the case of God, we cannot predict him and cannot be solved for God. Saving obedience to the Church, leave the hope of God's hope for the mercy of God for your mother's prayer. Read the Canon for Self His life interrupted (written by Metropolitan Veniamin - approx. ms), if possible, and with desire. The first time try to read 40 days daily. And the prayer that is in the canon, let it comfort yourself daily, and she will help her son. Good to serve the Son to Son in need. Hope with faith - lamps in our life. And the Lord is mercy and love. We hope for it. "
All these commemorations collected in the specified brochure are only a private opinion of individual members of the Church. Their righteousness and holiness, alas, is not a guarantee of the correctness of their advice, consistency with God's Will. Unfortunately, we now have a lot of people, blindly identifying the opinion of a pious elder or a devotee with the opinion of God himself, like "the words of the elder are the words of God."
Not every black soul can beat
God's grace and grace
Holy Apostle John, the apostle "love", as it is sometimes called in the church, commanded: "If someone sees his brother of his sinless sin, then let him pray, and God will give him life, that is, the grinding sin is not to death ... ", However, I warned immediately" ... There is a sin to death: I'm not talking about that he prayed "(1in.5: 16), that is, people who are in such a fallen state that any prayer for their salvation is vain.
Or here - "Who does not love the Lord Jesus Christ, Anathema, Marans-Afa" (1 Cor.16: 22). Scary words!
Evangelical Scriptures and Apostolic Messages do not give reason to believe that Christ can save people forcibly, and the soul of man who did not take care of clearing her himself during life through repentance and faith in Christ, it is unlikely that the Lord can clean, even if relatives are so hot.
Some can reasonably notice - that it is useful to breed demagogy here - it is useful or uncommon to pray to the home prayer for suicides, according to Christian mercy and compassion, it is necessary to pray for those, and the Lord will judge. According to the first impression, such judgments seem justified. But...
Praying, get ready for serious temptations
This prayer is not an ecstatic meditation, it is a work, but a prayer for suicides, non-prevented people and great sinners is a grave work! During which you encounter strong spiritual temptations and deterioration of health not only the most prayer room, but perhaps all members of his family.
There is reason to believe that, perceiving the memory of the soul of the deceased, praying at the same time, as it were, the general studio and his mental state is made in the region of his mental volumes, it comes into contact with his sins, crude repentance.
If the deceased was an Orthodox Christian and once in the earthly life he applied to God with a prayer for mercy and forgiveness, then the same prayers who pray for him loves God's Mercy and forgiveness to him. And if the soul passed into another world in the mood, hostile to the church? As you can, praying for unresolved or baptized, but who left the faith, to allow him to some touch to the goggle-minded mood, which was infected with the soul? How to perceive all those mockery, bully, insane speeches and thoughts, who were full of their souls? Does this mean to expose their soul the danger of infection with such moods? All of this should be thought of those who reproach the church in a merciless.
It is indicative of the case from the lives of St. Saint Seraphim Sarovsky, he said that he managed to pour some kind of great sinner, so after that, he was a great righteous, a monk, he drove a few months.
What awaits not such righteous Christians as sv. Seraphim Sarov, who took their prayers to "save" the dear relative who killed himself?! Large temptations and health problems.
I myself know before from my own sad experience. As soon as I started praying, not even a suicide, but about a very expensive person to me, dead, alas, in a challenge, almost almost immediately, the disease was rolling at me, then to my wife, and then on daughters. Lord have mercy! And he repeated it several times - the result is the same. I am aware of a woman who diligently prayed for her naked father during pregnancy - the case ended with miscarriage.
One of the Ufa priests told me a case when the young man who began to be diluted in the Soviet years, who began to be diluted, in his excessive diligence, decided to save the souls of the dead, whose bodies lie at the Demussian Cemetery near the city of Ufa. There, he made a big list with the names of the departed, and prayed for the rest of all in a row. Wild scandals between him and his wife began in the family, it came to divorce, his adult children were allowed into all grave sins; Of course, there were diseases, the spiritual life of this person changed not for the better. Holy Rev. Moses Ufimsky, to which this Christian then appealed to the Council, first asked him for whom he prays. When he told about his prayer "feat", the first words of the pretended were not at all biblical: "Are you a fool?!", And after strictly forbade him to do this, pointing out that there are many serious sinners: suicides, bootiers, drunks and suicides T.P.
Pray for unresolved in Orthodoxy
relatives are also not just
The conversation about unreleased people was not accidentally started. In practice it turns out that a person is not only a suicide, but also a non-Christian.
Well known canon to St. Martyr Wara for unrearen people. However, few people carefully read the stories accompanying this canon on how one unresolved young man was pardoned on the prayers of this righteous, and comprehendedly talked to live.
This young man, first, was a young man, sorry on the pun, which means that, because of his age, it did not have time to be heated in a lot and hard; Secondly, apparently, was a pious; Third, he had a very pious christian mother (agree, it is important); Fourth, knew about Christ, and was preparing to take Holy Baptism, but did not have time (previously, Christians went to the announced not week - another, and months, and then years); Fifth, who were announced in those days, might sincerely died in their sins, even without the confession of the priest, so who will objected to me that such sincerely repentance in sins is not delessful and useless? What, do I actually bring? Apply before God for such a pious young man, the son of the pious of the Christian mother, already the well-known to Christ, the Saint Uuru was not worth working.
Now imagine, for example, who deceased in old age, a woman who lived in a discernie, a blasphemy, damable, who did an abortion that attractives (who did not turn into Soviet times?), Etc., in short, with a great multitude of all sorts of unreasonable sins. What can be hoped for, trying to pray for her salvation to the Holy Waru?!
However, the soul of relatives is still growing in despair, is it really absolutely impossible to save or improve the situation, suicide, as well as non-trifles?
If you are pregnant, or your spouse is pregnant, if there are breast and small children in the family - categorically refrain from home prayer for suicides and unresolved, especially for unresolved suicides to avoid health problems in small family members, pregnant and lactating women.
If all the above these conditions do not belong to you, of course, you can try to hold on to this homely prayer feat. However, be sure to take the blessing of the priest, and if he refuses, do not become good - it will not end, and remember "obedience more post and prayer."
It is better to start your prayer feat, imposing the post (necessarily for the blessing!) Or during multi-day posts, if the current of the forty days after the death of Cemely about such dead people no one prayed. Rev. Netary Optina advised to pray together at the same time at least at least three Christians at once. Before and during when you pray, confess and often take the holy communion, it is better even weekly (again for the blessing). Take a part of the prosphora and holy water every day. Order Sorokoust about healthy yourself and close family members. Remember, the prayer about suicides and great sinners is a big spiritual feat, do not create it resembling, from the case towards the case. I repeat, it is quite possible, perceiving the memory of the soul of the deceased, praying at the same time, as it were, the general studio and his mental state is made in the region of his mental volumes, it comes into contact with his sins, crude repentance. Naturally, nothing good cannot be expected. Even such a great devotee like Seraphim Sarovsky, he was seriously a prayerful work about some serious sinner.
There is one more, it seems, a very pious and correct way to displays mercy from God for any person. Read on a par with the prayers of the Gospel about the salvation of his soul one - two chapters per day - "So faith from hearing, and hearing from the Word of God" (Rome.10: 17). Where does the saving faith come from in Christ the deceased unresolved and Malover suicides, if he does not know the "Words of God"? Alas, this is our common trouble - many Orthodox Christians, even grandmothers participating in worships almost every day, do not read, or little read the sacred writing.
If you started praying, and you have, with your loved ones, children, serious health problems began, immediately leave your efforts and simply accept the mercy of God's mercy about the fate of this soul of man.
"The Justice of God does not make mistakes, and so calm themselves, Eliko is possible" - wisely wrote already mentioned Archimandrite John (peasantkin).
Having resigned with the fact of the suicide of a person close to you, live with a decent righteous Christian life with faith in Christ the Savior, so that your soul reunited with the Lord after death in Paradise, and there really he himself know the Divine will on this occasion. If there is a certain benefit from your prayer suicide in hell, pray there with hard. Christians ask the righteous prayers in the waters of God, now the upcoming Rai, about themselves and the dead amplifiers. So what prevents the Christian to be in paradise, pray for himself about his relatives in hell?
Save you yourself, and thousands will be saved around - do not forget these words of Rev. Seraphim Sarov.
Lord, have mercy and save us!
On August 18, 2015, the Office of the Specialized Service of the Akmola Region was held, a seminar occupation was held among all WSO Police battalions on the topic "Prevention of Suicide", in connection with the alarming trends in terms of increasing the number of suicides among the population of the Republic of Kazakhstan compared with the data for 2014.
For the blessing of the Hurrying Single Serapion, Bishop of Kokshetau and Akmola and at the invitation of the USSO leadership at this event, Diakon Valery Anferes took part, head of the Diocesan Division for Public Relations.
The task and the topic of the presentation was the consecration of the position of Orthodoxy regarding Suicide as a phenomena not only a century 21, but also as problems of humanity in general.
For the period 2015, 1126 suicide facts in the Republic of Kazakhstan. This once again indicates the topicality of this topic and emphasizes its universal factor.
Suicide is despair, (a person does not believe that he can live on that God will help him) and a banging challenge to God (a person, as it were, in the face of God "throws" the life that suicide hated, without waiting for God, when God himself decides Separate the soul from the body). Naturally, a believer, a religious person will never make this act, since the believer tend to believe that God sees everything, and if he gave life, it means that it has its meaning and its goal. The beautiful Council of one bishop of the Orthodox Church is remembered, this person who has come to the funeral of the suicide: "Leave everything to God's court. A person has made his choice, we will cancel this choice is not able. No need to hi-see and say that he was a Christian. He lost Faith, because, only a losing faith can make such a terrible act. Now we are not authorized to change his decision. "
According to the unanimous cathedral opinion of the Orthodox Church, the life cross, as well as various temptations throughout life, is never given above the strength of a person. It is necessary to clearly realize that suffering, the sinful temptation that overcomes you in this momentYou can overcome, but not only on your own, but with God's help. It is because of the fact that a person in his ability, facing problems (often they are especially for young people who are contrived and ridiculous), it does not turn to God for help through prayers, repentance, the sacraments, and so comes to the fault of suicide.
We, Orthodox, know that in this world we should not be tied to anything (power, money, status, etc.) that life is given to us for learning the soul, and not for endless pleasures that it is more important to us, What is waiting for the threshold of eternity. Surprisingly, even deciding to leave life, a person does not want to think about how he can solve this task. When people come with suicidal thoughts, they complain that the soul hurts, and not the body. And how are you, a person, do you want to get rid of pain in the soul, having deprived yourself of the body? Where is the logic? This banal logic acts on many sufficiently cut down. A religious platform allows you to look even wider on things and understand the true goal, take an additional resource for overcoming this situation. Realizing the fact that the consciousness goes the border of death that there is no emptiness after death - a person will not make suicide, because then it is meaningless. (Except for cases of mental diseases that should be considered separately).
After all, there is not a single person, a truly believer (not formally believing in the mythical "God-in-soul"), which would have completed the life of suicide. Or you are a believer, or suicide. There is no third here. But each suicide is the consequence of the crisis state of the soul, the feeling of emptiness, life outside God. You can search for spiritual anesthesia for a very long time, but no one can give true freedom except Christ.
For an Orthodox person, absolute freedom of will is obvious, just as the complete absence of its absence after physical death: there will change, or rethink, or change their mind, or make a decision is impossible. While we go on the ground, we are able to come to Christ with repentance and awareness of the fact that, without the help of God, a person is unable to free himself from the power of sin, the oppression of habits, passion, the captures of the mind, which in turn leads to the death of the Spirit, and then and body.
Life is the gift of God and one Lord has the right to manage our lives. That we are not entitled to our will to oppose the will of the Creator and are obliged to keep this gift, as if hard to us, because it is the gift of God and we, like Chad God, must enter this life with all the temptations in the hands of the Creator.
The general situation is suicide is prohibited, suicide categorically condemns and ending the earthly path does not exiss in the Orthodox Church. Suicide is a dead end, and endless. And since life is given by God, we do not take it yourself. Life is given to us by the hand of God through our parents, so suicide is still sin and against the parents. Life is not our property, but does not dispose of our property, we produce the act of theft, sacrence.
The state of a person in suicide: no purpose, no tasks, no prospects, no spiritual rod, no hope for the will of God and his care about a person, there is no hope for a real opportunity to change everything that is only under one condition: a person must live.
In the spiritual sense: the loss of faith, love, respect, gratitude to loved ones, a acute desire to prove its right thing to all over the world. Although this egoism and pride in practice are ineffective and further than in the grave they lead.
Suicide may be provoked by passions and harmful habits: The passion of gambling, alcoholism, sober, drug addiction, reluctance to work, the idleness, for the whole person pushes the devil. And exactly to the extent, in which spiritually closed the person is closed for God, it is so subject to the influence of the devil.
Suicide is a spirit of spirit with which the Orthodoxy is successfully fighting, which God is heal. And in the event that there is really a really "church" life of the life, suicide is impossible, since the Orthodox is aware of the measure and height of the oath of loyalty to Christ in thoughts, desires, words and actions.
In Christianity there is no place to suicide, since the goal of a person's life in Orthodoxy is marked more than clearly: " Be perfect, as your Heavenly Father is perfect. Be holy, as I holy, Lord God is yours!"That is, by graceing a person should be the one who God is in nature. The goal is colossal, but achievable. Look at the examples of saints, koi great set (Nikolai Wonderworker, Sergius Radonezh, Seraphim Sarovsky)
As a reference point of life, these people chose Christ, because they believed that for the sake of us, he, God, without ceasing to be God, became also a man to bring himself sacrificing, resurrect and release humanity from the power of the devil, sin and death.
In Orthodoxy there is no place to suicide, but not in pagan cultures. For example, in Japan - SEPPUKU, ritual suicide is recognized by society as a virtue and feat, in the culture of Rome - the suicide of the faithful life of the faith in the feasts was ordinary practice.
In the sacrament of baptism, a person is adopted by God, and when a person kills himself, he shows that this family he has nothing to do. We can't pray for such such, since it is a complete rejection of mercy and the fishery of God, and according to the Word of God, " hula in the Spirit of the Holy"There is a sin unforgivable.
Upon closer examination, it turns out that he is not God, and the man himself his sinful, godless and unrighteous life betrayed himself in the hands of Dialya, who bowed him to suicide. " The sting of death is sin"(1 Corp.15: 56) - writes St. Apostle Paul. Therefore, it is repentance in his sins saves and" update"(Eb.6: 6) of a person, it should be noted" ... sadness sake of God produces unchanged repentance to salvation, and the sadness is Mirskaya produces death"(2Kor.7: 10). Is this not the reason for the increase in suicides in our more and more removing society?
Humanity, despite the vast desire to leave God, could not create any reliable foundations for overcoming crises, except traditional religious values. These values \u200b\u200baccumulated overcoming experience crisis situations Many dozens of generations developed explanations to the meaning of life, included the experience of helping people on the verge.
Modern philosophical flows, on the contrary, giving false and limited goals, could not offer anything to overcome heavy crises.
Professor MDA AI Osipov notes: " If you send a child to the forest, in a deaf taiga, what will you give him with me?"They remember about sleeping bag, matches, butters ... and no one says -" map and compass».
Such is I. real life. Parents provide any things, instead of giving a map and a compass, which will be morally, socially orienting children in life. It is especially important to give the meaning of life, without which life will not be conscious, but will be a spontaneous. It is the right landmark that gives the opportunity to a person if he got lost, get out of the forest.
But if a person got so lost that he does not have the right goals, he does not understand himself, does not realize this, and not fictional reality - it is almost impossible to get out of the great difficulties in which he fell.
The culture of consumerism, which prevents society now, not only does not offer anything, but also actively provokes suicides, pathological dependencies, etc. It is from this that the number of suicides is growing. If the ship has an incorrect goal and there are no navigation instruments, it will certainly fall into a catastrophe.
Most people today represent themselves as a set of some property: cottage-apartment-power-communication-money-prospects. Clearing this, man deprives sense.
After all " where is your treasure, there will be your heart"(Mattp.6: 21). And it turns out life without God, life for the shell, "shirts", without which a dead end ... and then still, how to die - in a swamp, from wolves or to hang on the tree yourself.
And if parents did not make sense, the vector of development, " map and compass", And they dressed up the children, caught in front of each other, and let go of the forest, which is our life - it can end tragically. Parents encourage children to suffer, without giving them an understanding that is actually the most important in life.
Parents are concerned about consumerism, financial operations, status, power, etc. The child sees it, takes the values \u200b\u200bthat see the elders, and as a result, has the same set. And once, becoming independent, it faces that he cannot rethink the crisis situation on these values.
If in this situation he cannot consume, have power, to carry out financial operations, then he is first lost, and then, realizing that he cannot live in accordance with his values, decides that it is no longer necessary to live. Why, it turns out, this life, if it does not allow you to consume and receive pleasure from this, to have what I want (for some kind of material, physically reasons)? And he doesn't see anything else in the family and surrounded ... And all this is due to the fact that a person was imposed of false values.
Regarding school of our life, you can give the following comparison. Man comes to school - learn. Training is always associated with a certain suffering and deprivation. The person is forced to work on himself, obey the discipline, control itself, limit itself in many respects. A person learns to get a decent result worthy of work.
But if a person does not know, does not believe that after the issue something else will be with him, in this case his work, his self-restraint during study is really not explained! In this case, it turns out that there is no point in his teaching - to learn in order to just suffer, strain, finish school and go into the darkness, in the void ...
In this case, instead of a concentrated study, it is natural to do consumer, play, picnics that now people are offered from all sides: "take everything from life", "we live once." After all, a person is incomprehensible to the meaning of his "learning" at school of life. It is not impaired and the meaning of suffering, the deprivities, which he tolerates at the same time.
Life is a school, not a picnic - all religions agree with that. But atheists do not agree with this, people who do not think about the sense, hedonists and consumers bringing the altar of pleasure not only their own and the souls of other, not yet born ...
One of the key causes of suicide in society is a preservative syndrome. Statistics are terrifies, however, only the most uncompromising look through the prism of Orthodoxy helps to reveal the spiritual reasons for the murder of children, and the subsequent suicide of "parents". It is enough to make an excursion in the history of the ancient Canana tribes and residents of Carthage, who practiced children's sacrifices idol Waal, showing the identity of motivation to murder kids ancient and modern parents.
Is there any possible solution to the problem of a preservation syndrome as one of the causes of suicides? Really eat. It is necessary to indicate the only true and saving way of the Lord of our Jesus Christ and the need to believe in it, believing him and call his name. The symptoms of the above-mentioned syndrome committed and participating in the killing of children are constant depression, despair, suicidal thoughts, anonymous malice. With such symptoms, a person cannot live, so looking for anesthesia of physical or spiritual properties ... Under such conditions, the true meaning of human existence is lost.
To help a person overcome the crisis, it is necessary, first of all, to be spiritually and ideological, intellectually prepared. It is necessary to have experience that adequately opposes consumer stereotypes, egocentrism, irresponsibility. The first thing is to try to understand him, talk so that he felt the participation, but not pressure. Sometimes it is even enough. The second business is to carefully analyze the stereotypes and human living structures in the crisis.
If a person really wants to achieve someone's attention, wealth, success, reciprocity, it is important to carefully ask him a question - "Why, what's the point in this"?
People want something, not understanding the meaning. Suppose a person really wants to have a family, children, but for some reason it does not develop, and he is depressed. When you ask the question, why does his family, he can not answer. They simply answer that everyone gets married, then children are hardened. It is necessary, and that's it.
The inability to satisfy their ideas and only they can lead a person to suicidal thoughts. Any suicidant has a narrowed thinking. He feels "as it should", but almost always does not understand - why. He cannot consider alternative points of view on the problem. We are talking about the captivity of the mind, reasoning obsessed and obsession.
Suppose a young man wants to achieve the location of some kind of girl, but can not answer the question "why" wants because he decided. He is just in captivity of his thought. But alternative glances should be shown to him very carefully. The main thing is that he does not climb, did not become an incredulous, understood that you do it in his interests and try to help him. First of all, people unbelievers who do not see meaning in life, nor behind her are attached to despair. To make a person from the position of suicide, it is necessary to break stereotypes to which it relies.
The stereotype of behavior is formed since childhood: a certain reaction is issued for some stimulus. The reaction is fixed, the psychological reflex is obtained. Now this is fed by advertising - an incentive reaction. Show in advertising expensive dressed special and voiced by themselves: "Oh, how good!". And a person from a multiple and widespread repetition is formed, for example, reflex: it is expensive to dress - it's good. Why well, for whom is good - a person is not thinking. This attitude flies from all sides, and many people absorb him like sponges. When in the soul, the person does not rely on, any surrogat will "fit". If I, orthodox Christian, I understand why I live, what I do, I feel confidently and I do not need these rags, these surrogates ...
In the behavior of people with suicidal thoughts and intentions, there are general features. According to research, this is a sense of isolation from other people, a feeling of abandonment, unnecessaryness, absolute loneliness. A person seems to be that his suffering is unbearable that no one experienced a similar one, and is unable to understand it. Continuation of life for him means the continuation of suffering. In addition, the perception of the suicide is extremely narrowed, external for it does not exist. Based on this, a person striving to help should "distance themselves", not to be imposed and, at the same time, ready to be close to, accept and understand. This will help weaken the feeling of abandonment and isolation.
Researchers recommend avoiding confrontation, convictions in the wrongness and unacceptability of the step, slogans and the like. On the contrary, confidence and participation in a person will allow at a certain point to speak out against suicide as a solution, indicate that the person in his blinding does not notice. This may be a reminder of loved ones or direct indication of the illogicality of the act "from spiritual pain to the destruction of the body will not save", as well as an indication of the crisis and ways out of it. In the end, the generation of people experienced the same problems. But they knew how to worry about their help.
About banning on the fission of suicides.
Christian burial is a logical result, the completion of the Christian earthly life, "the last appealing" of the eternal one.
Burns the believer church, which implies the belonging of the buried to the church. If a person with his consciousness, his attitude to religion or the content of personal religious religiosity was outside the church during his life (for example, stating that "believes in God, but it doesn't need the church"), then there is no reason to perform rejected or simply ignoring the church. Such burial, firstly, will be sinful because it will be false. After all, in the very rank of burial about the mustache, it is said in the categories of the involuntary church faith and life of the person (which in the case of a unchurvenined person is a lie).
Secondly, it will already be a manifestation of violence and the divine service (an attempt to make a church rite of church over a church service) and over the person himself (during the earthly life he did not want to become a member of the Church, enter her sacred subsoil, to taste her sacraments, and now We are trying to "choke" not a soul, but a decomposing corpse, when he can no longer tell your "no, no need"). Thirdly, it will be blasphemy, because to stand in prayer to God to God (calling the "faithful slave of God" of one whoever, nor the Spirit foresaw such the status of his person) is a blasphemous repayment of prayers and an insult of God himself.
All of the above refers to any occasion of "funeral" unbelievers or is not clear what and as "believed".
Suicide is not just a fact, action. Suicide is a phenomenon, a certificate of a certain state of the human soul. And the state is the most terrible state.
Of course, if the "arms left" was a man of believers, then I would find the way out of a dead end in prayer, realizing that "if I don't need everything and I need it, I need to live with him." (This is the difference in the behavior of the believer and unbelieving once again emphasizes the anti-religiousness of suicide, and, therefore, the inadmissibility of the man of a man who committed such a bright and tragic act of denial of faith).
God forgives us our guilt, but you do not need to try the burden of your fault (which we still have to clean, "redeem") to shift on others. The church, grace living in her, help the person cleans, corrected. But Christ does not make our inner feud instead of ourselves. He is with us, but not instead of us.
Voluntary deprivation of life of life, even if it is a flight from suffering, always perceived as the greatest sin, which the church on earth can no longer let go, because every sin is released only at repentance.
The first person, who turned out to be in paradise with Christ, was a robber who repented on the cross before the death: " And Jesus told him: True I tell you, now you will be with me in paradise"(LK.23: 43). The Word of God says:" If we say that we do not have sin, - deceive yourself, and there are no truths in us. If we confess our sins, then he [Lord Jesus Christ - approx. Ms], being faithful and righteous, forgive us our sins and clean us from all of the wrong"(1in.1: 8-9). But how can they repent during the lifetime of a suicide? After all, he kills himself.
On the posthumous fate of suicides.
It is necessary to realize that the reason for the torment of the sinner in hell he himself, as well as the inability to get relief from God. The degree of torment is not difficult to submit. The deceased drug addict, who could not defeat the passion for drugs, will experience eternal breaking and the need for drugs, drunkard - eternal hangover and alcohol cravings, a smoker is an unbearable tobacco desire. The clodnik will overcome the desire to satisfy her lust, the worship of the hunger and the desire of exquisite dishes, meat ... In general, everything that a person could not curb in himself in himself during his lifetime, will hide in him for a feature of life with a painful flame, for where his soul will find drugs, delicious food or the object of satisfaction of lust?
For an embittered, goggleless, not repentable sinner, finding next to God becomes unbearable flour! It was possible to see the terrible documentary frames of the release of a teenager hostage whom the kidnapper monsters were kept in the basement in the pitch darkness for several months. Savited on, it seemed, the long-awaited white light, the boy snapped tightly and closed his eyes with his hands - the light that brings us so much joy and warmly for him not to endure, because of a long stay in darkness. So in the case discussed - God, which " is love"(1in 4: 8) and" shine"(1in.1: 5), for a person, all his life running from him, immersed in the darkness of sin, becomes not an endless, burning conscience.
The current painful state in the material world will be interrupted with death, but there is a man forever with his fear and horror, despair and despair, wild pain. For where can the suicide calm in the darkness of the hell? Such a terrible, eternal dive of horror ... What suicides wanted is the cessation of consciousness, but it is precisely it does not stop with death! Soul, like carrier personality, consciousness, eternal.
Every Christian has his own cross, through which, courageous, mopding on God, we get salvation. " Then Jesus told his disciples: if someone wants to go after me, reject himself, and take his cross, and follow me"(Matt.16: 24). We perceive this cross as an instrument of our perfection, like a fire that turns a piece of ore into solid steel, as a weapon in the hands of the warrior of Christ against sin, the authorities of the devil and eternal death. Think about the words of the Holy Scriptures:" ... We know that a loving God designed by His Development, everything contributes to"(ROM.8: 28). Note -" Everything contributes to good", And" everything "means the grief including.
Everything that happens in the world is happening either by the will of God, either by lodging it for the instrument of man for Malovery, the foolishness, sins, etc.
But if God is with us, who is against us? In prayer " Our Father…"We ask God" yes there will be the will of yours, both on earth and in the sky", That is, both in the world of the earth and in the world spiritual ... and everyone is given by believing it!
The sin of suicide develops both from the very fact of murder (himself in this case) and sins of disbelief and smallness, fabulous, sins of despair and despair, through which suicide refuses to bear his life cross, dumbfounded in the savory fishery of God about every person. It aggravates the situation and the unrecordant sins of forbud, abortions, not reading parents, occultation occupation (fortune investigation, astrology, magic, etc.), theft, lies, and the like.
Lord Jesus Christ He speaks: " I am a vine, and you branches; who dwells in me, and I am in it, he brings a lot of fetus; For without me, you can not do anything. Who will not be in me, will twist, as a branch, and dries off; And such branches are collected and thrown into the fire, and they burn"(Ying.15: 5-6) - in them and great consolation for faithful Christians, and a terrible warning for smallproofs and apostates.
according to the materials of the sites: Orthodoxy.ru, Memoriam.ru
Prepared Deacon Valery Anferes