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A pride is an overestimated assessment of his forces, while simultaneously combined with a zealous attitude to his own personality and expressing severe sensitivity to the opinion of itself. Validity is noted in each individual, but it is expressed in varying degrees. Necessary, proud personality overly painfully perceive criticism in their address and are incredibly worried when they refuse them or. Improved pride is able to grow into quite aware or not aware of revenge.
Both pride
Each individuals is a personality, it represents something, has unique features of character and worldview. This is an absolute and indisputable fact. Nevertheless, human psychology includes some moments uniting all people. Such peculiarities include pride, which is one of the characteristics of a human character.
Self-love is good or bad? Psychologists give such a value of pride: protection by an individual of its social value, as well as relevance. In other words, pride defines such a trait of character, thanks to which the individual becomes smarter, more attractive, grows over himself, maintains value in society.
Is a pride of a good stimulus to improve your life? Every question everyone will answer himself. Some inclined to the opinion that pride is good, the other, that is the illusion of its own superiority leading to hyperbolization of its own "I". One thing is clear that for each individual there is its own personal motivation and without respect, as well as love for itself is impossible intellectual, spiritual and physical growth. And negative statements, judgments, instructions for disadvantages negatively affect the identity, assisted pride.
Each individual reacts to criticism in different ways: someone has a sense of guilt, someone becomes aggressive, someone has a self-esteem, someone is very annoyed, but in any case the criticism does not pass by the ears and strikes a shock .
Not everyone can adequately take criticism due to its individual characteristics and character traits, but it is important to be able to correctly perceive the design comments. If this happened that a person was inflicted unreasonable insult, then psychologists advise to accept it as a faithful fact, draw conclusions and go through life further.
A person is very susceptible to social approval. When he is praised, he grows in his own eyes when they criticize, on the contrary. Proud, builds a certain scale of values \u200b\u200bin his head and tries to achieve it with all their might. It is good when a person is committed to useful for himself and society goals and is a destructive behavior when an individual intentionally becomes the path of degradation. It must be remembered that in itself a pride acts as a catalyst of actions and desires, but not the main reason.
It is sometimes very simple to offend a proud person. For this, just one word is enough. In this case, there is an exacerbated pride, when the personality solely concentrates attention to the satisfaction of its needs and desires, by and large, it is indifferent to others. Such excessive self-conception leads to egocentrism.
The desire to be the first to relate to normal, healthy pride. Physically, a mentally healthy person is always endowed with this quality. In this case, this is a motivation to professional and personal success.
Charming pride is celebrated in women, so you should not intentionally offend them, because you can lose a good relationship with them forever. Women acutely react to comments on the appearance, the image of thoughts, behavior. In adulthood, it is essentially reacting to the words of flattery and compliments, so it is better to scour it, rather than express a lie. For representatives of the fine sex, it is important to feel calm and comfortable, so it is better to refrain from the rectilinear statement of flaws. If such a need exists, then it is better to express it alone. At the same time, the proven pride will not suffer much, and you will save normal relations.
Vulnerable pride
In a vulnerable pride, it is bad that the individual's critical comments in their address perceives painfully, and to people begins to relate to suspicion. A proud individual is very difficult to learn how to own yourself and competently perceive criticism. In whatever soft form, criticism was not presented, it is always difficult to perceive by people, and often individuals take it over close to heart, especially if the criticizing is inexperienced or criticism of non-constructive. Not many people own the art of constructive criticism, so it is doubly very hard and painfully perceive it.
How to react to criticism correctly, if it happened that the individual became its object? If a person has been criticized, then, first of all, he should convince himself that he really has something to criticize him, and otherwise he will lead himself aggressively. At the same time, if a person recognizes the right for other individuals to criticize him, he can also count on recognizing him of some rights. For example, the right to be considered to be considered, did not humiliate his merits, did not spread the criticism of the person. The individual also has the right to demand that criticism sound only in private conversation and not in the presence of unfamiliar people and colleagues.
We offer some tips, as a person behave in a similar situation:
If the essence of criticism is incomprehensible, then you need to ask a person who criticizes to clarify that it specifically meant;
It is important for a person to learn how to separate the content of criticism from the form, if a person does not suit the form, then you can answer like this: "Criticism is valid - I admit it, but I wanted it to go to the person";
If a person does not agree with criticism, he should say about it, mentioning, with the expressions that emphasize that this point of view is it. For example, "I personally think otherwise" or "everything was wrong";
Always keep visual contact and speaking not falling, voted, without increasing tones.
What does pride mean? A vulnerable patient of pride is not just awareness of personal negative moments of its nature, this is also a protective reaction of the ego on internal problems, as well as feedback to the world around. As a result, with a vulnerable pride, there is a resentment on those people who applied it. Offended pride is not a feature, but acts as already mentioned, a protective reaction of a person who was offended. Often, such an individual turns into unresponsible to criticism, becomes inadequate and not capable of self-analysis. This is because the ego of the individual builds a strong shell around his painful nucleus, which is felt like a good stupid pain. In this case, the lack of love, dissatisfaction with life, dissatisfaction with the reaction of those surrounding and himself are subject to provoking factors. The constant does not allow a person to fully live. Indications for the lack or statement of criticism to a person with exacerbate pride provokes only, and the consequence of such painful pride is inadequate behavior.
Male pride
The blow to pride offends any person, but in comparison with the female pride of men, it is more acute, as a result of which they become unpredictable, unmanaged and inadequate. In order not to hurt a male pride in family life, a woman needs to learn how to smooth sharp corners, be able to give up, do not touch pain. It also does not hurt to find out what is often the most annoying men, as well as what female actions they cannot forgive them at all.
By many women, the feeling of some impunity is perceived, as the right to speak and do everything that they do, as well as any ways to achieve their goals. A loving man can forgive a woman a lot if it does not pass a certain framework. When one day, it is often a good and mild man, ceases to be manageable, he is very much surprised his beloved half. Therefore, a woman is very important in a relationship to maintain a certain face, which is impossible for any circumstances. So will you never forgive a man? Male pride will be very worn by the female treason, which a man will be very difficult to forgive. Own treason with female treason is not comparable. They do not attach importance to their treason, because they refer it to a simple need for intima. After a betrayal, they continue to consider their own female native. But with female treason, everything is different. Often, women's treason is not accidental and in most cases there is a sympathy, hobby, search, as well as the need for affection and tenderness. By changing, a woman makes it clear to her man that nothing means to do nothing with him. In case of treason, men's pride suffers very much and, if even a man forgives, then the fact of treason is unlikely to ever be able to forget the relationship with such as before - no longer be.
Men can not forgive women if they dismiss in relation to their relationship, and also put themselves above them. Whatever a man, he wishes himself to feel the main thing and be a defender, as well as support. A man wants to feel more confident, stronger, even if the woman earns more and knows how to make decisions, as well as implement them. A woman should shoot men's pride and not take over the role of the owner of the situation. Sooner or later, a man will not stand the moral burden, will oppose it and goes to the one with whom it will be confident and strong.
A woman to preserve relationships with a man can never be compared with others. He wishes to be the best and only one for a woman, so the comparison with others does it humiliates, generates complexes and irritation, which can break out from under control.
A woman is not standing in the house to emphasize their role of mistress and loud to express the shortcomings of her husband, as well as the advantages of other men. In order not to hurt the pride of men, you need your mind and knowledge do not demonstrate to the detriment of the image of your beloved man.
Also do not like men attempts to manipulate intimate relationships. Refusal of proximity under the contiguous pretext of headache and fatigue is one way to push the man to treason. And to demand for sex the execution of whims, gifts and thus manipulates dishonestly.
After getting married, many women relax and try to look good only before going out of the house. Over time, the husband thinks about why the wife no longer wants to like him? Even if he does not show the look, you need to not forget about it.
How to hurt male pride? Male pride can be strongly lean when a man is exposed in a funny light and for him it means non-recognition of its consistency. Women should be careful with ridicule in the male address. This is especially true of intimate opportunities, members of his family, appearance, the ability to make money.
Men do not want to "dance under the female dull", do not tolerate stamps and monotony in behavior, do not tolerate command tone from the woman. These listed moments may forever repel the hunt for male to communicate with women. Male nature will not tolerate the imposing stereotype of behavior, and will not try to fulfill all the assigned expectations.
In order not to hurt a male pride of a woman, it is necessary to change the stereotypes of behavior, to say less "so it should be", "do it all", and try to be unpredictable. Men do not tolerate the clarification of relationships, they prefer the words actions and rely on the impulse, instinct, and long conversations cause irritation and are able to lead to a discontinate. Therefore, women should not pull the man into clarifying relationships.
A man will never tolerate the flirt of his chosen with another man. Such behavior of a woman will annoy the man, and pride will be very worn.
How else to hurt male pride? There are still some women habits who are very annoying men. These include endless telephone conversations, endless serials, thirst to suck, aimless shopping hiking, as well as the habit of buying everything in a row. Many things are closed with eyes and try not to focus on, and not to notice, but it is not necessary to abuse it. It is necessary to stop in time, and also think - whether the husband is worth acting on the nerves, bring to irritation, indignation and displeasure. To preserve peace and tranquility in the family, and so that the man will respect and loved the woman, it is necessary to respect and spare his pride.
Women's pride
The pride of women so often happens unreasonably overestimated that it may be offended by anything and a representative of the beautiful sex immediately turns into a disgusting being. A woman with a proud pride begins to ulce, let dust in the eyes, offend the words of the interlocutor. Often, the behavior of a woman is not controlled and it does not give up a report, in what does. From this state it is very difficult to get rid of. A woman is haunted by the desire of revenge and burglarism in the eyes. Minor resentment and non-infractions provoke an increase in tension relations and worsen interpersonal relationships. Therefore, to preserve trust, sincere, happy relationship, a woman needs to overcome, no matter how difficult it was, the progress of pride.
Psychologists note that the blow to pride is easily applied by male treason. Not all women can watch through the fingers on numerous men's treason. And as if experts did not try to explain the causes of men's treason, show moving motifs so that women are not so emotionally and painfully reacted to it, nothing happens.
Psychologists note that treason arises due to the weakening of emotional connections between spouses, and it makes a hidden conflict with a clear. According to statistics, it is a woman for today in many cases performs the initiator of the divorce. Women's pride pushes on such a decisive step. Before divorce, a woman decides that it is more important for her: personal pride or excerpt, love, patience to a person who has recently been close and relatives. Often, women are indignant: why psychologists after the treason of her husband urge them to endure?! It turns out that the wife should, meeting her husband from work, to be charming, feed sophisticated dinners, ensure leisure and still engage in children.
And if the spouse suddenly finds out about treason, she needs to calm down, tune in to a neutral wave, attend the hairdresser, to hum. Fashioned songs, follow the wardrobe, in order to remind of their attractiveness. In such a situation, not every woman wants and will be able to behave. Therefore, most women choose a divorce. At the same time, many women outrave the fact that psychologists do not call for a husband who learned about the treason of his wife, to take home care, try to return their appeal, make gifts to his wife and capture her mood. It seems to be purposefully, consider wives, emphasizes the difference between male and female psychology.
Undoubtedly, it is necessary to take into account the male psychology in family life, since representatives of the strong gender nature endowed emotional stability, will, and all methods from women on re-education are often faced with resistance. Many wives would not hurt to take advantage of the ability to adapt, patience and caress, and not go across. Many husbands do not stand pressure in this situation, and the betrayal is often an infantile attempt to self-affirmation in the eyes of another woman. And if the wrong spouse start to reproach in immorality, egoism, then it is possible to push it finally. Of course, and with a stranger, and with their pride need to be considered and not allowed to learn him to aggravated limits. Therefore, it may be, nature and endowed women with artistry, spiritual subtlety, deep heartiness, the ability to see the soul, to understand, sorry and empathize.
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Feeling of self-esteem, self-affirmation. Painful with. (aggravated). Insulted with. Spare whose-n. from. (Do not give a reason for the emergence of a feeling of insult, insulted by pride).
Explanatory dictionary of Ozhegov. S.I. Ozhegov, N.Yu. Swedov. 1949-1992 .
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Each person is unique and unique not only externally, but also internally. Any of us has its own character traits, features, psychology and worldview. We are all inherent in pride, but this character trait is developed in all unequal. Let's figure it out that such a pride and who are such proud people?
Definition of proud
Well, when a person has self-esteem, but, as they say, there must be a measure in everything. I have a pride of each of us, but only different character traits varying degrees of development. If you look into different sources to find the definition of a word of pride, then it can be understood that this is spiritual and moral quality of a single person.
A person will not be able to love someone if he does not like himself. This character trait should manifest itself as respect for itself and recognizing their own dignity. Thanks to this feature, a person can constantly grow spiritually and develop. It will become:
- small;
- attractive;
- maintain your authority in society.
If a person does not like himself and does not respect, he cannot intellectually develop spiritually and physically normally, to improve.
When a pride helps a person to show exposure and responsibility for his actions and actions, then this can be assessed as a positive quality in character. Sometimes this feeling is developed so much that man does not notice his own flaws. In this case, pride develops into pride and ambitions, turning into a selfish.
Self-love is good or bad?
Most psychologists claim that proud is a good feeling. Other specialists in the field of psychology believe that improperly exalted themselves, since it is possible to morally degrade. To some extent they are right, because often strongly developed proud people gives people a sense of superiority over the rest. Over time, this leads to hyperbolization of its own "I".
Adequate self-esteem Always perceived positively in society. Very good when a person has:
- a sense of dignity;
- does not be offended;
- takes comments to your address;
- reaches the goals.
The wise men always said that low self-esteem is much worse than a lot of pride. Another thing is when it comes to a proud personality, it rushes immediately into the eyes and does not allow her to live normally in society. In this case, it is not able to appreciate the soberness and opportunities. A proud personality is dominated by personal interests over the interests of other people, since she perceives itself above all the others. Such quality makes a self-unpleasant for the rest of people and unbearable his character.
Against the background of patient pride, neurasthenia often appears in people. Gradually, this leads to other negative consequences. A person constantly seems to be underestimated and for consolation of self-love, he can lose control of himself. This can serve as a signal to poor actions:
- region;
- alcoholism;
- drug addiction and other asocial actions.
How to get rid of excess pride?
When one of us hears in your address of the word praise, he begins to grow in his own eyes. If a person is constantly underestimated, undeservedly scolded, criticized, he falls in his eyes and surrounding people. Special acutely developed pride in women. In adulthood, it starts to show stronger. All weak sex representatives always respond negatively to comments, for example, about their appearance. For this reason, you should not speak directly to women about it, but it is better to hint or gently to say alone.
Well, when a person to strive somewhere, it works on himself, he has his own goals he wants to achieve if they are useful for him and society. Normal pride should not lead to self-evisitation, to its degradation. In a good sense, this feeling should be a certain catalyst for desires and actions.
If this feeling adequately helps to go through life, then you should not get rid of it. In this case, this feature is positive, its it is impossible to consider disadvantage. It can be proud to be proud of the urgent pride. It will help go ahead, do not stop at what has been achieved, continue self-development.
A proud personality with a vulnerable and sick feeling requires the help of a qualified specialist in the field of psychology, with a visit to special trainings. Such people will not independently be able to notice their drawback and believe the word others that they have an overestimated self-esteem. They create their perfect image with which they are soaked. It reminds pride and gonor, which gradually leads to the disrespect of others.
If pride is combined with humanity, respect to others, then it can be called a positive feature of character and the necessary quality. It will help live, appreciate yourself, not to give offend yourself and believe in your strength.
the moral feeling, in K-Rom, respects the human respect for himself as a person, based on the recognition of his dignity. Like pride, S. is an expression of a person's self-consciousness and a certain way directs his actions, but, unlike it, is more personal character, it is entirely to the field of individual consciousness and is associated with the OSN. With the assessment of its own abilities and opportunities. In cases where the feeling of S. becomes a stable distinctive feature of the nature of a person, it acquires the importance of moral quality. C. is a positive motive of behavior (and according to quality) so far, since it helps a person in overcoming difficulties and its own weaknesses for the achievement of those results, which is waiting for him from it, and since it encourages a person to legitimate their dignity. But although S. and plays a often positive role in the behavior of people, it does not make a person a conscious carrier of the ideas of communist morality, since in this case he performs actions for himself for the conquest of respect from others. S. becomes negative quality when it is from the demanding attitude towards himself to unreasonable pride, in self-priority, which prevents a person to listen to a friendly criticism, soberly evaluate his actions and opportunities. And correct your behavior. Such a sick S. plays the opposite role, paralyzing the activity of the personality, and ultimately humiliates human dignity.